Is it normal i'm paranoid about my daughter being kidnapped.

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I have a 2 year old daughter almost 3. I get very parainoid something will happen to her mostly kidnapped but also things like her choking or something. I know most parents are worried about this but I have a constant fear of it. If i'm in the kitchen doing dishes and I hear her cough I fun to the front room to check on her. I also still cut almost all her food up very small. More of a issue I worry about her being kidnapped or molested. I have her sleep in my bed cuz I'm afraid somebody is gonna crawl through her window and kidnap her. I even like her sleepin on the opposite side of the bed that the door is on in case somebody comes in and grabs her off my bed. Even during the day if i'm doing the dishes or something in the kitchen and she is in the frontroom I check on her every couple minutes cuz I think somebody could walk through the front door or something and take her. I cant leave her with any babysitters becuase i'm afraid there gonna be mean to her, not whatch her closely enough like I do, or they could end up being a child molester. I know I will always worry but would like to worry less and maybe beable to let her sleep in her own bed. I will eventually beable to put her in her own bed but right know i fear she wont beable to scream or defend her self if somebody were to come in the house. Is this normal or are there other people that constantly obsess with this to. its sort of hard becuase I cant leave her anywere except my sisters.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    that is a terrible way of bringing up a child and then when they get old enough to understand, they are going to start living in fear. my sister in law did that to her child and he ended up having depression when he was 7 and gets bullied all the time at school because he is a big wuss. dont destroy your childs life because you are paranoid. please get yourself help before you destroy your child. PLEASE!!

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    • maggiegirl
      13 years ago

      I dont think I need help I think my child is perfectly fine and it is not affecting her in anyway. She still is not afraid of anything. She is bing raised in a very good way. Worring about your child does not make them have a terrrible life maybe your sister in law just didnt know what in the hell she was doing. My daughter had a percectly normal life. There is to many people in this world that are scum bags. If I would just let anybody take my kid and see my kid that would be bad parenting.

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      • Lopezyedea
        10 years ago

        I know this is an old comment but I was curious to know how you feel now! I hope someone responds to me! I feel the exact exact way! Reading your question makes me smile because I thought I was crazy! I'm a mom of a 1 year old and constantly think that she's going to get hurt or if I'm out I'm scared because I start getting anxiety and thinking some crazy person wants my daughter. I'm dreading when it's time to go to school. I think I'll be in the car waiting till she gets out of school. And the I start thinking how I would just go nuts if I loose her at a young age and how I expect that my daughter sends me off to heaven because a parent should never. This is really becoming an issue. I rather my husband sleep in another too so I can sleep withy daughter. If I go to dinner I'm constantly calling my aunt to ask what she's doing and then tell my husband that she's crying, making it worse than it seems just so we can hurry back. If my husband cheats on me I'll take it because I don't want to have to share my daughter. I know that at this point I'm so worried it takes my energy. I even shower with the doors locked and her in the shower with me. Even if my husband wants to go to the mall so I can relax I say no! My stroller has the option of her facing me or normal and I rather her facing me so I can see her. If I'm doing groceries and even looking at fruit I tough her leg so I know no one has snatched her. Even when I drive I have to co tangly stare at the mirrors and double check if the doors are locked. I'm always freaking out

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  • fearfulalways
    8 years ago

    Hello! I'm a mother to a 10 year old girl and a 12 year old boy. Over the past year or so, my "paranoia" or anxiety has really gotten to me and I'm constantly worrying about the "what if's".. I've always been a little OCD and worried about things but not the point I can actually seen an image of the thought that's going through my mind at any given time. I really think it's because of everything that is happening in the world nowadays. I know I shouldn't live in fear because no matter what I do it's not going to stop the bad from happening but I just can't control it anymore.
    I can't believe people out there will hurt innocent children! It's not only that I worry about, I also worry about house fires, car accidents or trees falling on the house. It's not normal but how do you make it stop?!

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Op, you should consider getting a dog. Dogs strike fear into the hearts of home intruders. They can do them a lot of damage. They'll protect the family and the home.

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  • IINUSERmertis
    9 years ago

    All I have to say is that I do understand. I am the same way. I did finally have my daughter sleep in her own bedroom recently (she is almost 3 years old) for a variety of reasons. She still SOMETIMES sleeps with me. I think I am going to look into getting an alarm system put in the house. Also, that was a great suggestion, Avant-Garde. Martial arts lessons would be awesome. We do still, however, have to let them explore the various wonders of the world or else it won't be much of a life now will it? So, don't feel bad!! You're not alone. But sometimes.. We have to "Do It Anyway" just like that poem by Dr. Kent M. Keith.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    As soon as she is able, enrol her in a marital arts class. Wing Chun would be good, it was originally crafted for a woman by a woman. She needs to know how to defend herself. http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wing_Chun

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      i mean it was good enough for Bruce Lee, it good enough for your daughter

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      • Avant-Garde
        9 years ago

        Yes. Just think that one day she could become the next karate kid! She'll be thanking mommy for supplying her with those lessons when she accepts her award(s).

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    You are sick. Get help with your phobias.

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  • Koda
    9 years ago

    I'd be paranoid that your writing skills will rub off on her...

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  • ellenasmith1986
    11 years ago

    When I was a kid, my mom was always chiding me to stay close to her for fear that I’d be “snatched.” When I got a little older, I decided my mom was crazy, paranoid, and overbearing. Kidnappings never really happen, right? But now that I’m much older and have heard and read countless news stories about abducted children and even adults, I realize that kidnapping is a very real threat. So I've decided that the best way to protect my family is to have them registered to SafeKidZone. It's a panic button application installed on my phone that whenver they're in trouble they will just press it and it will simultaneously alert their loved ones and the 24/7 call center that they need help and if needed, the call will be routed to the nearest 911 in their area. You can visit their site and you will find more of their interesting features http://safekidzone.com

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    i say dont go against yr instinct. i dont see fort knox unprotected and she is much more precious

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  • BfingIToucher
    13 years ago

    I don't think you're a terrible mom in the least, but certainly you wouldn't be asking this question if you weren't worried about your paranoia and obsessive behaviors here. And I see what Aussiedog is saying -- you are going to make your daughter a very fearful child. This fear is not good for you, either, and seems irrational. Yes, the world is full of scumbags, but it is also full of wondrous things to explore. Your daughter should feel this, too. I think you'd want to raise a confident, capable, happy child. Ask yourself what you are teaching her and how it will affect her as a kindergartener, as a 14-year-old, as a young adult, etc. And what will you be like as she grows up? Right now she is always by you, but some day she'll be leaving the house without you. You need to gradually prepare her, not scare her and shelter her from the world.

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    It's sweet. It's normal to be concerned over your Childs safety- but don't let it interfere with her life when she starts school and gets older. What are you going to do when she becomes of age to drive? Date? Go to college? If this is an obsession and not just a normal parenting thing- fix it NOW while she's young.

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    • maggiegirl
      13 years ago

      I think its a normal parenting thing thats why I asked to see if other parents felt this way to if it was just me. I dont think it is a major problem though. I worry so much becuase she is so young little girls cant do much to defend themself against strangers or even no how to get away if they were kidnapped. As she gets older the worry goes down alittle. I think once she is older teen I wont worry as much becuase she will know what to do. So as of right now she is just too littl of a girl to be out there left in this world with strangers and people these days are hard to trust. Thank you so much for your replay. I really wanted to here others input on this.

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