Is it normal i'm not ready to commit?

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I'm having a terrible past two years. Lost my best friend to suicide and my grandfather died suddenly. Also lost my cat who was only 5 because it got run over by a bus.

Messed me up. Really messed me up. I am mentally gone like I'm not fully here I feel like I'm not living just getting through...so guess what I broke up with my girl even though I didn't want to but felt like I had no choice because how is it fair to stay with her if I feel like my head is floating in outer space for two of the five years we were together.

I forgot her birthday, forgot our anniversary not even on purpose just because I'm not fully here.

Is it normal to not be ready to commit for personal reasons even if I love her?

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  • Notderanged
    5 years ago

    You've been together 5 years and now you say you're not ready for commitment? It just sounds like you're a selfish coward to me. If she's not the one you want to be with just man up and say it. Don't use all these other reasons as excuses.

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  • Jaystr
    5 years ago

    Its better to go into a relationship with a clear head and heart

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