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I can never get comfortable around people or even in my own house. If I'm at home in sweats, I'm not comfortable but I'm not comfortable in jeans either. I'm also never comfortable around people. I never want to talk to them or interact with them and it's so awkward. is it normal to feel this way?
Here are a couple more psychological tricks (which may or may not seem to help a situation)..you just need to fake it till you make it or keep faking it I guess..see a psychologist) (they can help)..for at least temporary.. Anyway, say the opposite of negative thoughts..to be positive, you have to think mostly MOSTLY positive thoughts..and get the people around at least considering the points you are making..and if they have ears..they have to process things in their subconscious apparatus. There is also thought replacement, which is similar. If you aren't having helpful thoughts, replace them with thoughts that are helpful. If your family seems disfunctional, 'adopt' a functional family and think of them as family figures..it may really help.
..and even if you don't feel/act completely positive/social ALL the time..you are human, you have moods, stick up for your right to down time if you need it!
You may be lacking in social skills, which IS very normal for some people for different reasons. (been there) Soo, try some of these or all..and don't feel like they are THE ONLY FORMULAS FOR SUCCESS because as successful as they may be or seem sometimes..there are 'toxic' personalities out there who are partially responsible for making a lot of us want to drop out of society...just avoid these people like the plague if they bother you (even if you have to quit a job/class/family..whatever, not worth going crazy. ..back to the coping mechanisms I was talking about: Robin Inwald says (and this doesn't work on people in bad moods..so move on from them..and have hope) "Wear your CAPS, Compliment, Ask, Act positive, Smile...tone down a bit too if you are attracting unwanted attention..which can happen..it's meant to be an ice-breaker. Also,try some of the things in Dale Carnegie's 'How to Win Friends and Influence People'. Also, don't obsess about his formulas..obsessions make people think you are wierd..read different books, talk to different people, be influenced and in-turn influence the world. ..hope it makes you feel more in control and less lonely..alone is good when you are influencing yourself positively..or temporarily venting a scream into your pillow.... ..but lonely leads to depression/anti-social, ..well let's not go there, ok?
Maybe you should become a nudist... are you comfortable with out your clothes?
maybe you must find a place only for yourself? I mean, when things become complicated, I go far into the forest and just sit there alone and breathe. That calms me
This sounds like anxiety - i get this in certain situations, i go bright red and have to take all my layers off to try and cool down and stop sweating. It usually happens with people in authority, people in shops or when i say something that i think sounds stupid.
If you think this is anxiety i would discuss with your doctor as i did and he helped alot.
Are you comfortable with yourself?
If not that is a good place to start.