Is it normal i'm in love with this guy?

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Last year when I was 17 I met a boy during a school trip. I'm not really the kind of person who falls in love with someone just because of their looks, but he was different. I have my own sense of beauty, and he wasn't the kind of guy who's super handsome and popular, no...in fact judging by other people's opinions I'm the only one who finds him really cute. So it took me only two or three days to develop a big crush on him. The problem is that more than a year passed and still, I'm very attracted to him. But I barely know him. We talked easily during that trip, then we had a little conversation on Facebook, then, at school, nothing at all. SILENCE. Apart from once: the day before we had had a long talk on Facebook. The next day there was an event at school and while going out of my class I saw him standing next to the stairs with a friend while everyone was going downstairs. He greeted me with a big smile and that made me really happy. Then each of us went with their own friends. After that day, nothing. Now a year passed and my crush never disappeared. We have a friend in common, the one who introduced us. He knew that I liked him, and told him late last summer. And it seems that he answered "I'm not interested in her". My friend then felt guilty about this and told me everything. I got mad at him because he knew he hadn't to tell him anything. Then I got depressed. He said I was cute. He told me his interests, mostly the same as mine. He told me I was nice to be with. I don't really get why would a boy illude me this way. And for the record, I'm still in love with him. I seriously need help.

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  • Cobrakitnu
    12 years ago

    I know exactly how you feel. I don't think you're "in love", but you obviously have some strong feelings towards him. Since you don't wanna move on (and I wouldn't either, he sounds great), you should try talking to him again. Maybe ask to go somewhere like a museum or a carnival or something. Both of you should bring friends along, too, to make it less awkward.

    Good luck. (:

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  • piman
    12 years ago

    Try to get to know him. Become friends. His feelings may change.

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    I don't mean to sound mean, but it sounds like you're deducing quite a lot from very little actual information. It's probably time to be a bit more direct. You know what you want and there's no harm in going out to get it. The worst that could happen is temporary embarrassment. The worst that could happen if you don't do it, is that the love of you life slips through your fingers.

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    Sounds to me like you got turned down; it happens. Also sounds to me like you are mixing infatuation with love; you don't know the guy so it's hard to believe that you would be in love with him.

    Some people will keep on trying to get in when they are turned down, they'll keep trying till they get what they want or are sure that they can't. Others will move on.

    The guy has his reasons why he didn't ask you out and only him knows. He is in his rights to not be interested in you but maybe you just didn't try hard enough. Who knows?

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    • turquoiise
      12 years ago

      Yes, but he hasn't the right to call me princess and act all cute & sweet and say he wants to get to know me better, then after some days shut up with no reason. That's what made me upset.

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      • Tisgranum
        12 years ago

        I understand it made you upset, but yes, he still has that right.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    You are one crazy obsessed super freak! If he's not intersted (as he clearly isint!) just stop fucking whining and go for someone else.

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    • turquoiise
      12 years ago

      This is not even classifiable as help. I clearly can't just wake up in the morning and say "K today I'll go look for someone else". I can't decide such things; nobody can. And then I'm not in need for a person. I don't desperately look for people.

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      • Tisgranum
        12 years ago

        You can however decide to work on forgetting about him. That is a choice you can make. Plenty of people get shot down and have to be adults and learn to deal with it.

        I've no pity for you being shot down whatsoever. It really isn't the end of the world.

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  • jasonkirk
    9 years ago

    talk with him tell him you like him more than a friend

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