Is it normal i'm ashamed of my honest opinion about abortion?

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I beg you to read this whole thing before you comment.

I'm a young person from Europe and for the most part, my political views would be considered liberal. I'm a pacifist,
I'm against any war and the death penalty. But here's the one opinion I try never to talk about if I can avoid it: Abortion feels wrong. The reason why I don't talk about it, is because people get hurt and sometimes very hostile, and I get that.
But here's the thing - I've just never heard a convincing argument why abortion is not a problem, and I really wish I had. I mean if we knew that before a certain time an embrio is no human being, there would be no question about it - then it also wouldn't matter if someone got raped or just didn't want a baby in general, because it's just part of your body and you can do with it what you want - After that specific point in time,it also would be no question, because once it's a human being, it would have human rights, which includes the right to live.
However, we never found out when life begins, have we? Nobody knows, and that really worries me.
Now, apparently thinking like this makes me an asshole, and I kinda hope someone can change my opinion on this.

If this has offended or upset you in any way I'm very sorry.
I ask this here because I know this community is exceptionally tolerant and insightful when it comes to touchy supjects.

Abortion is clearly okay, because ... 8
Abortion is a problem, because ... 7
Actually, it's been proven that life begins at ... 1
I don't know what to think about it. 2
You can think what you want, but you should keep it to yourself. 6
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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. In no way shape or form should you ever feel ashamed of your personal opinion just because someone doesn't agree with it. That is the thing about opinions though, people tend to think theirs is right. I try to be as non-judgmental and accepting of others opinions even if they differ from my own.

    I think you should do your own research into it and come to your own conclusion. Asking someone else is only going to get you their two cents and a biased one at that.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Why should you or I even have an opinion on abortion when it doesn't affect us?

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    • [Old Memory]
      8 years ago

      I'm pro-choice but I don't think it works like that. If we have a school shooting we're allowed to have an opinion on it despite it not effecting us.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I don't have a fully formed opinion on the subject either, but imagine if you did believed that legal abortion meant that thousands of innocent babies were killed, wouldn't you want to do something about that whether it affected you or not?
      of course a woman should be allowed to do with her own body whatever she wants, but are we sure that's what this is? I just don't know.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago

    I personally don't like abortion and wouldn't have one myself. But I do think it should be done in some instances. Also if it wasn't legal people would do it anyway and have even more problems.

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  • pizzabrowniesushi
    8 years ago

    The older I get the more I realize life is not black and white ,there are so many shades of grey. You don't know what is going on the woman's head when she is making this decision.If she is in a crappy relationship with a jerk,who would make a shitty parent or something bad happened, or she doesn't have a job or she just can't be a mom at this point for one reason or other.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I fully agree. i'd never pretend to understand what it means to make that decision, and I wouldn't blame someone who made it. I'm not talking about what it means for the mothers, but what it means for the fetus. Do we end one life for the convenience of another? As you said: Those things aren't black or white. I just wish we could acknowledge that. It feels like in order to make an ethically difficult decision we have to pretend like isn't one.
      It's like when you buy an iPhone or cheap clothes, you know that some people in asia have suffered and maybe destroyed their lifes to make this. That doesen't mean you can't buy an iPhone - But when you do, you should know what it means.

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  • VirgilManly
    8 years ago

    If you don't like abortion then don't get one. I don't like abortion but I'm not about to say make it illegal so I'm prochoice.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    What do you think about birth control then?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    I'm still not sure which side of the fence you are on; pro or anti, but here are my thoughts.
    Every woman should have a right to manage her own reproductive health and it should not be of any concern to the government or anybody else. At conception and for some months thereafter, the 'fetus' is but a conglomeration of cells, just like a cancer or tumor, and for a woman who doesn't want a baby, just as unwelcome.
    I might have some respect for the right to lifers if they each adopted at least one unwanted inner city crack baby, but they don't, do they?
    I love how those most vociferous about right to life are also those who are trying to shut down health care and the food assistance programs that are meant to help the very children their beliefs promote. How's that for being two faced!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Well, since where I live, it's been legal for quite a while, there's no political need to pick a side anymore. But it feels like the ethical dilemma has been put behind as if it was solved, and I don't see how it was. As far as I know, by the time you can even be sure you're pregnant, the fetus has developed well beyond a tumor like growth. By two months the fetus has, arms, legs, a brain, a beating heart and it's moving around. Sure, it doesen't make memories and hasen't developed a personality, but neither does a newborn. But whenever you read about a mother killing her baby after it's born, there seems to be a huge public outrage. Of course I don't mean we should judge anyone for having an abortion. It just feels like a double standard.
      The part about the adoption is true though. It also makes me furious when those people judge young mothers. Also a double standard.

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    • Itsnotnormal1
      8 years ago

      You pretend to sail the world from your mother's basement.

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  • peridot
    8 years ago

    I have mixed opinions about it. I don't necessarily like the idea of abortion but there are some women who get forced into sex and I believe that those women have every right to make that decision

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Stop beating yourself up just because there are people who don't appreciate your opinions. Your opinions and beliefs are yours and you have a right to them. So what if you offend people.

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