Is it normal i'm always so emotional?

I'm a 30 year old guy. My friends all think I'm really tough, and I want them to think that too. However, the truth is that I'm not really. Now that my 20's are gone forever, I often get really emotional about all the precious time that has gone by, and about all the chances I've missed, and the things I should have done differently. I wish I could do it all over again with what I now know, because I regret a lot of shit. I HATE always being so emotional, because it makes me very sad and it also drains energy. Still, I just CANNOT stop it. Is it normal to feel this way, and, more importantly, how should I deal with it?

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  • Marisol

    I know it is hard for you now that you have realised that you could have done things differently. I am sure at a certain point in life, when for example someone regrets not doing something that should have been done at the time; a person begins to feel really emotional as a result of the different outcome. You just have to tell yourself for sure that those days are over, you cannot go back and change them; neither can I. However, now that you know this all you can do is make sure that you do not repeat the same mistake again - that which will make you feel emotional again.

    And there is nothing wrong with pretending to be tough. The fact that you are aware of your feelings is a good sign. All you have to do now, and I know it might take a long time to do; is to stop being so emotional, take a fresh approach to life and instead of having to pretend to be tough all the time, showing your true emotions to other people sometimes is relieving.

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    • Jan_Zondernaam

      Excellent advice!

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      • cookiesaregreat

        I get the feeling you're Dutch?

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        • Jan_Zondernaam

          So?

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          • cookiesaregreat

            Nothing. Just happy to see other Dutch people on this website.

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            • Jan_Zondernaam

              Ah, a fellow Dutch person!

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      • Marisol

        Thanks

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  • Jan_Zondernaam

    Thanks again Ldizzy! Especially the part where you said I shouldn't take any crap from my friends for sometimes being emotional. I know they probably won't give me any, but it'll be something totally new for them, that's for sure!

    Also glad you think I'm still kinda young.

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  • Ldizzy1234

    I think its good that you're in touch with your emotions. But sometimes you just have to face the reality that whats gone is gone, and you can't bring your past back. Whatever has happened was supposed to happen. You can't control fate.

    We all learn from our past experiences and mistakes, or at least try to. But as long as you don't make those mistakes again, you'll probably be fine. But for now, just live your life day by day. Relax and don't think too much into things. Let yourself move forward.

    And seriously, don't be afraid to show a little emotion here and there to your friends. If they really are your friends, they won't love you any less for showing your soft side. Shedding a tear or two or even frowning a little doesn't necessarily mean you're not strong. Your emotions might just run deeper than others and theres nothing wrong with that. Best wishes! :)

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    • Jan_Zondernaam

      Thank you, very helpful!

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      • Ldizzy1234

        Yeah, seriously. I really wouldn't lose sleep over it. ;) And emotionalwreck is sort of right. I mean, what girl wants a guy who's cold and distant? Probably zero. Emotions are a beautiful thing. Just be you, and don't hide it. And if your friends are jerks about it, well..., screw 'em! And don't worry you still have a lot of precious time coming. 30 is still kinda young. :)

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  • emotionalwreck4ever

    Girls like emitional guys :)

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    • Jan_Zondernaam

      You've just made my day!

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      • emotionalwreck4ever

        :D wish i found an emotional/sensitive guy.

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        • Jan_Zondernaam

          Just as bad as I long for such a girl?

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