Is it normal i'm a young disabled woman who …....

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….....gets on better with older people, disabled or not ?? I just find them easier to talk to and more understanding.

I look like a teenager (I’m actually nearly 29) but I live life at quite a slow pace. I'm a bit strange because I luv old things –-, older music (I luv the blues), medieval stuff, even got a leopard-print duvet after seeing 'Quadrophenia'. When I go to concerts I’m always the youngest there!! I'd wear the old clothes if it was practical (it's not)

Lots of people involved with looking after me tell me I need to be with other younger disabled people, who I talk to with no problems as I do with everyone, but who I wouldn't choose to spend time with because I never, ever have anything in common with them (give me death rather than take me shopping)

I've never understood why this is said to me. I think it's better to be with people you've got things in common with and I don't see why it should be different because I’m disabled. IIN??

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    ehhh, be yourself, it doesnt matter as long as your happy and your life is fulfilling.

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  • la_la_la_la
    11 years ago

    Hiya,

    Thanks. It may be because I'm younger. It is unusual which is why I like it on here; there seems to be lots of people who share my tastes. It's a very hard balancing act between what I like (older stuff, castles, etc) and what I need (masses of help) If it's easier to take a disabled person shopping, that's what's offered.

    I find it strange that the most ignorant people are often people looking after me who should have more sense. I often wonder whether they'd give two hoots about the way I choose to live my life if I wasn't disabled. I’m guessing not. I don't tell them what they should do; why do they feel the need to tell me?

    I was in a rehab unit (so I could have enough help) and the staff put some really fast dance on, which I've always for the most part not liked, and I politely said it wasn't my thing. They said “everyone else likes it” but the room was mostly full of older men looking as miserable as sin, who all wanted to borrow my cds later.

    When I went on a disabled persons' holiday there was a folk night. I love my folk so I thought I'd died and gone to heaven, but there wasn't enough help there so I sadly couldn't go back.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I don't see anything wrong with it. I'm not disabled, but I find that I often get along better with people that are older than me. I'm interested in things that allot of my peers aren't into like classical music and older films. But I can easily relate to those things with older friends and not have worry about being judged by it. It's normal, but it's often seen as unusual or uncommon. Don't listen to the people around you. All that matters is what makes you happy:)

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  • Frosties
    11 years ago

    Completely agree with you. Being disabled is only one aspect to you, it doesn't define you. You don't need to define yourself by it in seeking a community amongst people solely because they are disabled too.

    On the other side of the coin, I can understand that there may be a certain level of ignorance amongst able-bodied people and it might be nice to not have to explain yourself all the time. A disabled friend of mine was once sitting outside a shopping centre in her chair with a can of Coke on the armrest when an old lady came up and tried to slip some coins into the can because she assumed she was collecting for charity. The story made me (and my friend) laugh a lot but it does highlight a point.

    Either way, do what makes you happy.

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