Is it normal? i'm 18 and have never been on a date.

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Okay, so...I'm 18. I'm in college. I've never been on a date, much less had a boyfriend, or been asked out by a guy that I actually LIKE. I have never been kissed or held hands with a guy. I have never been held in a guy's arms. You see how this could make a young woman feel a little insecure?

Background on me: I have made a commitment to purity and I believe in saving myself for marriage. It would be nice, though, to know what it feels like to go on a date with someone who I am attracted to, just spending time with a guy I like.

I find it easy to be friends with guys, but a lot of times I think they tend to think of me more as a sister than a potential date. I'm told by guys that I'm attractive, marriage material, and intelligent; most guys really do treat me with respect and their parents like me. I just don't understand.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    How bout u ask them and now wait around and act like your super special

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  • DivineDeception
    13 years ago

    The men in my town are insufferable. It appears as if you've got the same issue. The media portrays a certain image, a disgusting degrading one of women, and I respect you for being unafraid of going against that and for your standards as well. Most men are intimidated by me because I actually am confident and intelligent. There seems to be nothing wrong with you. Don't worry! Sluttiness is too widely accepted and promoted nowadays. We're the last of a dying breed, haha.

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  • Hey'sForHorses00
    7 years ago

    I'm going through EXACTLY what you're going through. The only difference is that I'm 17. I APPLAUD you for wanting to remain pure until marriage. It's great that you're true to your beliefs.
    You're still young. I wouldn't worry about not having a boyfriend or never being on a date. Just keep doing what you're doing, you're bound to be rewarded some day.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Funny that men are bastards in any of these situations... maybe your not putting yourself out there; going to the right places or places where nice guys go. Maybe your giving off a shitty vibe and are unapproachable by nice guys. It's either that or every guy in the world is a useless shithead-and all these married women are forced to tolerate every single one of them! How do you do it troopers?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Dude that's exactly my situation.
    Maybe the right guy for you just hasn't come around yet.
    Or you should try to give one of those guys that you don't like a chance. You never know..

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    stop thinking that they think of you as a sister because it not true at all in fact its the girls who usually think of the guy as a brother. just next time somebody ask you out just accept it and see what happens, you have nothing to lose anyway.

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  • lululu
    13 years ago

    it's not easy to be respected by men that often treat us like pieces of meat...it's media's fault...television and magazines portray a wrong image of women...we're expose like trophies. so i admire you because you have been so good to gain men's respect.
    but i have to be honest...it's also women's fault.
    a lot of girls are ready to sell their bodies in order to have a brilliant carreer or to reach for notoriety...but they're putting aside their dignity.
    so i don't wonder why we have lost respect by men!!!
    this world is getting worse instead of improving...
    come on girls!!! stand up for your rights and raise your dignity

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  • OM3GA
    13 years ago

    I'm in the same situation...except I'm a guy trying to find a girl...just like you I have a lot of friends who are the opposite sex, but they mostly seem to want to be friends more than dating...it sucks...so best of luck to us both!

    I think people in general are a bit too sketchy, and I want my relationships to be with girls who I could potentially see myself marrying, so I agree that in this case, patience is the key.

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  • DivineDeception
    13 years ago

    I know you probably want a good companionship, but things happen at different times for different people. Patience is a virtue.

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