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This is the second time this has happened. My boyfriend and I were a great couple. We finally decided to have sex and it was pretty good. After the sex, I just, I didn't feel that spark anymore. I don't feel as happy as I do anymore in this relationship. IIN?
may have to do with the fact you are waiting?
As in, there's a buildup of tension and drama, where you become a couple, you get closer, and the ultimate peak is reached at the time you eventually consumate your relationship by having sex.
Now looking at movies or books, after that peak thing it's...not as gripping any longer. The resolution is good, but ultimately just closure.
Maybe you'd want to not make sex into something "special" that will take quite a time of buildup before it happens, but rather include it into daily relationship life from an earlier time, to prevent having such a "one-time" peak experience? You can still look forward to things like mutual holidays, moving in together, eventually marriage or children, etc.
I'm just throwing that out there, and it's just my personal opinion and thoughts, but well, i thought i'd speak up ^_^ Up to you wether you want to listen.
Perhaps you should ask yourself - why did having sex sour the relationship?
Why were you interested in him before, but not after having sex with him?
You may want to review your feelings to figure out why were you in a relationship with him? Were you interested in him because you wanted to sleep with him, or did you want to sleep with him because you were interested in him?