Is it normal i like to go for girls/guys who have low self esteem?

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Okay so I'm a teen boy (exact age does NOT matter), and I am pansexual (if you do not know what that means I do not feel explaining it, just think of it as another way of saying bisexual), and I'm also transgendered (I was born female, but have lived male for about ten years now).
When I look for a girl or a guy, I usually tend to go for the ones that are emotionally vulnerable, or have low self esteem. Not because I want to make it worse, like you might assume, to be honest, I really don't know WHY.
I really like being able to make someone like that feel better about themselves, although that isn't really WHY I do it, it's just something that happens as a result.
Is it normal that I prefer emotionally vulnerable/low self esteemed people?
And if you could give me an idea of why I may be like this, please comment it. (:
Thank you.

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    Personally I prefer girls kind of like that. I can't say why you and I like women (and in your case guys as well) with low self esteem but if I had to guess it would be because people like us have been in similar positions and know what its like. I've been depressed before and I remember taking every opportunity I could get to tell someone how I feel, even if they weren't listening. I think you've also had your share of feeling alienated and wanting someone to hear you out, so that's why you go towards people with low self esteem, because you know what its like to be there and want to help. This is just a theory; but it's one that I'm basing off of my own reasons for wanting a person with low self esteem. We're both helpers, you and I, but who's shoulder do we get to cry on?

    Side note; I think I'm broken, and I partially want to say the same about you. We look for other broken people because we want meaning in our lives, we want to help others avoid becoming like us. If what I'm saying doesn't relate to you, then I truly (and I seriously mean this) apologize for calling you broken.

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    • melvaz0511
      10 years ago

      i know what you mean. :/

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      • Anime7
        10 years ago

        I'm glad I'm not alone.

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        • melvaz0511
          10 years ago

          i'm a 15(almost 16) year old girl and i don't go for cocky guys because i know (from experience) they'll hurt me. i go for humble, modest guys.

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          • Anime7
            10 years ago

            Hmmm.... I've heard women before say similar things before, then turn around and go for the asshole. From what I've observed, you could be a modest and humble guy, but that doesn't mean anything if you don't have confidence.

            You seem nice though, so I'm sure you'll make some guy happy. He'll be a lucky guy.

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            • melvaz0511
              10 years ago

              oh no. i made that mistake once. never EVER going to go back. it completely ruined my self esteem. i know what kind of guys to stay away from. and if i'm interested in a guy, i ALWAYS ask anyone who knows him what kind of guy he is.
              and thank you(: i appreciate that. you seem great to, keep looking for mrs.right, i know you'll find her.(:
              oh and just in case you're wondering.. this link leads to a profile i made a while ago out of boredom. you can look at my pictures.:
              http://moonit.com/i/melvaz0511

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    I prefer girls with low self esteem too such that I can relate to them.

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    • melvaz0511
      10 years ago

      yea, it's the same with me and guys. i look for the good ones who know how to treat a lady.

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  • melvaz0511
    10 years ago

    it's completely normal. it's probably so you can tell them every single day how perfect they are.

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