Is it normal i like the weird guy?

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i work with this guy and i'm trying to ignore my feelings for him but he lures me in. I love the fact that he is not all over me like guys usually are. I don't necessarily find him attractive but i usually have very high standards so this is strange for me. if we were together no one would believe it because of the difference of our beauty, but i find his physical appearance warm and comfortable. i crave it. this guy is awkward, in a way that would turn the average girl off, but i defend him when people talk shit, and i don't even really know him. i get jealous when this chick talks to him but something tells me to stop thinking about him because those two are both weird and awkward and would be happy together.

do i have genuine feelings for him? because if it seems like i am just looking for a challenge i will leave this guy alone immediatey to not hurt his feelings.

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    You like me?!?!

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Damnit! You beat me to it! hahaha

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    Sounds like myself and my husband a while ago...
    And I did get jealous when he talked to other chicks (ya know, more than friends).
    So I asked him out and that ended that problem.
    But it wasn't because he was talking to other chicks. Correlation, but not causation.

    If he feels right to you then ask him out, if you are not going to ask him out then quit getting jealous. I like Dozis' answer.

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    • sunnyray
      12 years ago

      Thanks, so although you two really differ, it worked out?

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    i think i just got hope again, cause i was that guy for awhile, and i feel like im reverting back to him slowly everyday

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    Geeks are sexy

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  • lalalajapan
    12 years ago

    it happened to me also !

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    The usual personal duckling deal. You are afraid that by hooking up with someone who's as beautiful and attractive as you are you might lose him to someone more attractive than you or who just gives better head. You are craving for exclusivity, which you can only get by
    hooking up with someone who's technically ugly and therefore should theoretically have more troubles getting laid. So he will feel more "yours".

    You'd also happen to prove that you can have him anytime you want, thus raising your self esteem even more. You get jealous because you think: he shouldn't be talking to her, he should be talking to me! He should be talking to me! Because I am better than her! He would be your guaranteed dickering. At least that's what you wish he could become for you. Your safe dickering.

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    • sunnyray
      12 years ago

      I am ashamed to admit that I would in fact enjoy the exclusivity, but is that not what we all want in a relationship? Sure, if I was with him I doubt he would ever betray me and I know he would appreciate me, but that is not what lures me in, although it is a "bonus" per say.

      I have been thinking about him and his smile often and I get excited to see him but I realize these are just the signs of a silly crush. I want to get to know him to see if I actually like him, but I am afraid about what it is that will pull me in; whether it is the exclusivity factor or genuine feelings. The last thing I want to do is use him or hurt his feelings.

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  • Gena45
    12 years ago

    Sounds like you like him. Why not give it a try? Are you afraid of what others will think? Ashamed of dating the weird guy? You know, it doesn't really matter what other people say. You should be happy with who you're with, no matter how weird or awkward he is.

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  • Lucyg123
    12 years ago

    Discribes me totally

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  • slapYOUsloppy
    12 years ago

    That describes me. Wish I knew you :(

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  • Charmo
    12 years ago

    In what way is he 'weird'?

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    • sunnyray
      12 years ago

      He is socially awkward and his posture is quite rigid. He looks shy but once we became aquaintanced, he opened up with much confidence.

      When I mentioned to my two friends that I thought he was really interesting, they looked at me with confusion and repulsion and could not seem to grasp what it is I see in him.

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  • INTENTGUY
    12 years ago

    atleast do the guy.

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  • bcox5
    4 years ago

    Yes it is normal. I found a guy exactly like this, and went for it thinking I liked him. Turns out that I just liked the thought of it and ended up breaking it off shortly after. I was in high school and I really regret that I had to learn my lesson by hurting someone’s feelings.

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  • MunchkinTheNerd
    12 years ago

    I Love Those Awkward, Geeky, Nerdy Guys Because They Are Always Themselves And Don't Care What Other People Think. They Also Go Out Of Their Way To Make You Laugh (: I <3 Them

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Hmm, this poses a difficult challenge. If he is awkward he may not have the spinal fortitude to dominate you and make sure you know that your place is in the house doing the cleaning and when thats done its straight to the kitchen to cook dinner.

    This could pose a problem down the line if you dont know what your rightful place in subservience to him is.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    I know a girl who's hot as hell. She dated a fat guy. She thought he would always stay with her, and always be faithfull. She was way out of his league, right? They fought alot, and she left him alot. He always took her back. In 2 years + the guy lost some weight. He re gained his confidence and thanked the girl. Turns out he was cheating on her with another girl. Who? A girl who wasn't as good looking as the one he was with. Why? He felt more comfortable around her, and they had alot of things in common. Later on he left his girlfriend to be with that girl, she was very heartbroken, and still is.

    What I'm trying to say is sometimes things don't work out the way you'd think they would.
    Just be carefull.

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