Is it normal i like my lovers to be turned on only by pleasing me?

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I am considered a pillow princess... I don't know if this is the same in the straight community (I'm a lesbian) but I like when my lover gets turned on by pleasing me. I like pleasing them, don't get me wrong, but only if I'm in a serious relationship. And even then, I have to initiate it or "go first" -- meaning I have to please them first or else I will be too out of it after I orgasm to do much of anything. I just want to sleep. It's been a problem in some relationships but worked out in the last fling I had because she had trust issues and didn't like anyone touching her if she wasn't dating them seriously. Are either of these normal? Comments! Gay, straight, bi, transgender, I don't care. It's all sex... But I'm curious to know your orientations so include it in your comments. Thanks!

I prefer pleasing my partner 2
I prefer to be pleased 3
I like to be pleased and then please my partner 2
I like to initiate sex (and please them) and then be pleased. 3
I don't let my partner please me at all. 0
My partner prefers she/he pleases me only. 0
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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I think everyone feels like that if they go first pretty much.. but it could become a bad habit to not want to please them back. If you get to used to that instead of sucking it up like everyone else, you'll be viewed as bad in bed.

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  • NoraBaker
    11 years ago

    Oh my god! I love that expression "pillow princess"! I'd never heard it. I've always used "lazy lover" for days when I'm in that kind of mood. Now that sounds way better. Thank you. ;)

    I guess it also sounds waaay better than "dead fish", huh?

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    Hello, I'm a female and I have had some experiences with girls in the past but I don't think I'm bi because I'm not emotionally attracted to girls. I was just curious. Now I'm in a serious relationship with my bf and I would say that I prefer to be pleased. But there a thing that I love to do that pleases him very very much. So I would say that I prefer to be pleased but sometimes get really turned on when I know my partner is getting pleasure from what I'm doing.

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