Is it normal i let my husband have a serious girlfriend?

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Hi,

I've been with my husband for almost 10 years since we were 19. We just got married last year. We've been through so many obstacles in our lives that one day I realized that I wanted to do something out of the ordinary that I would normally be too scared to voice because I realized I didn't want to die not doing what makes me happy. Now don't get me wrong, I love to read romance books and used to be very conservative. But it has open my mind and desires a lot of what I truly want as I get older. We discussed things like a threesome. And have never acted upon it because the right person never came a long and we love each other so much. So if it happens, it happens. If it don't it don't. Well, it so happens that my husband and I have a mutual friend that was interested when he joked that he needed a new girlfriend now that we are married. She's very in love with him and he's starting to have feelings for her. But being with him for so long I know he's totally dedicated to me but this girl is very similar to me but opposite in so many ways that completes him. I'm okay with it because after all the crap life has thrown at us I totally believe in living our life with total honesty and truly satisfying each others needs, but does that make me not normal? I know it's weird, but he's like my best friend and plus it turns me on to hear all the stuff they do and include me. I know she loves me like a good friend and I know he wouldn't leave me. We want to stay all together but society standards scares me. Some people will say I don't love my husband but we actually do love each other a lot. What started as a threesome just grew into something good, not disastrous. We all struggle with what's "normal" but at the same time everything feels perfect. We have our down days when she feels sad that she can't have him to herself and I sometimes wish I did too.....but more than not....we are having lots of gun and are very happy. We just hate lying to our friends and family.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    it's one thing to have a "V" in your relationship

    however it sounds like your husband is putting her first and you second.

    as a couple this should be something you BOTH do, not something he just includes you in a little

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Marriage and monogamy are a dying institution, dying slow deaths, but dying just the same.

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    • Purevskb
      11 years ago

      I agree

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  • Purevskb
    11 years ago

    If it makes u happy it can't be that bad .... hell are you so sad ?But why the hell R u so sad . Not normal

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  • blondbond69
    11 years ago

    If you hubby sees your with someone else too and keep him on his toes and less confortable wth this girl. Hell be thinking what you are now ans posting online and asking people if its normal too

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  • blondbond69
    11 years ago

    Get a boyfriend too or take chances on you faded into the background while they flourish.

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  • x1frosty16
    11 years ago

    What happens when your husband starts spending more time with her than you, or if he eventually starts to love her more? Or starts treating you different than he used to? If yall both love this man very much it doesn't matter how close yall are eventually there will be jealousy from person or another. If your completely ok with shareing your husband then be proud and don't give a fuck what your family or anyone will think. Its your life. But from the looks of it your already starting to have problems and stuff may not be as perfect as you think, like you said she's already having days where she's upset cause she can't have him to herself. But just my opinion if your ok with everything be happy and enjoy your life :) sounds like it would be more fair if you had a boyfriend too!! Lol I couldn't imagine my man in the room with another girl though. I'd be the first to grab the shotgun...:)

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  • fucksleep
    11 years ago

    I completely agree with this, though I wouldn't do this myself.

    Who the fuck said we should only love one person?

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    If it works for you, who cares what others think? You two seem to be very open and mature, so if the world doesn't like it, it can eat dicks. I know if the same happened to me, I wouldn't care.

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  • Norml
    11 years ago

    It's NOT normal at all - but that's only because most people are too selfish. They want everything for themselves. But what you have is better - giving, receiving, loving... it's a true love where the pleasure of the people around you is as important to you as your own. Don't be afraid, love them both and enjoy. Your friends and family should be able to let it go if you all just tell them she is a good friend of you both. It may come out over the years, but don't let anyone's negative reaction bring you down. It's your life to enjoy.

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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    man so much negativity again, if you are open to it and have a sexual experience all together there is a good chance he might even get it out of his system and forget about the other woman completely, which will leave you both with a stronger relationship and a new experience

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    Maybe not normal nowadays, but polygamy was standard practice throughout history and still is in some cultures.

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  • trollx1
    11 years ago

    suck his penis everyday even if its small

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  • Married_Happy
    11 years ago

    P.S. may I add when ignorant people post things so foul to others when it's 2012 when they could be doing more productive and positive things... That is why finding my happiness that doesn't hurt others like discrimination and hate is just fine because I'll be doing something happy than wasting my time cursing at others.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    NO. YOU'RE FUCKED. FUCK YOU.

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  • buttons
    11 years ago

    not reading this, but the main question... NO.

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