Is it normal i just wanna crawl in a hole and die?

But you aren't fat.

Honey, you need to start living your life properly.
1. You are not fat. I know exactly how you feel. I have felt the same way so many times.

I find it difficult to explain over the internet but anyway, you need to look at the positive side of your life. Yes, I know that everything is horrible. This is where you come in.

When a person feels the way that you feel now the best thing to do is to reassure yourself that everything is ok (because you are not fat).

The next thing to do is to, instead of focusing so much on yourself focus on your mother and your brother; focus on people who need you now. Since you are not fat, accept yourself the way that you are, but be more lenient towards yourself. What I mean here is that what maybe makes you feel this way is the fact that you have put a lot of pressure on yourself about looking perfect and eating correct. There is nothing wrong with this, but at one point or another some of us can crack under the pressure. You have got it into your head that you are still fat. I assume that you have felt like this for too long that it is hard for you to feel any other way.

Take a chill pill, relax, and enjoy eating = this equals enjoying yourself when exercising. See the good side in everything.

Next, focus on helping your mother and brother. They need you. You aren't even fat and look what you are doing to yourself when those people need you. I know that it is tough living in this difficult situation, but you have to keep strong. Giving up is easy. Being strong is a choice. I am sure that you know which one is better. I have said it so many times that the right thing to do is always the hardest, and it is. What will cutting yourself do? It might make you feel a little better for the time being. Where will it lead you?

What you need to do now is stop giving yourself so much attention and start giving it to those who really need it. Read motivational quotes and life stories. They always give us a brighter view on life. Just don't back down.

Go out with your friends. Push yourself, because if you don't you will break yourself. You don't want to be there, trust me. It will take time to get back on track, but it is worth it every second.

Fuck off

attention seeker

you cant crawl in a hole and die... you wont fit in the hole :P sorry I just had to make that joke

I feel the same way you have described except that I'm 5ft 5in and about 240 lbs so I'm about 100 lbs overweight more or less. I can't say what your normal healthy weight would be but it probably would depend on bone structure and muscle mass. I'm only about 2 inches shorter than you and I remember when was about twenty years old and interested in joining the Army they told me a healthy weight for someone my height was between 114 and 154 lbs. So from your post I'd imagine your probably underweight. I can't say if you have an eating disorder but I think you might be seeing your body differently than it actually is. Please, if you see my post, look up Body Dysmorphic Disorder .

ur not fat ur underweight...

What makes you think you are fat ? Why do you care about your image. Even if you were fat what is so bad about that ? if your friends reject you (which i doubt) they are not the friends you want to hang out with. But I guess they will reject you because you don't hang out with them anymore. You better put your shit together and enjoy your life. Stop crying like a kid and get over with this.

sweetheart,your not fat your soo buetuyfull

The "I am fat" message your brain is telling you is metaphor for the problems in your life that you need to cope with and try to resolve.

Objectively, you can see that given your height and weight you are actually underweight. It is because your must be experiencing personal turmoil in your life over things that you cannot control that you have focused on altering something about yourself.

If it wasn't feeling fat it'd be about something else-the fact that you want to cut yourself is another manifestation of this same issue. Clearly you are hurting and in pain and I feel for you.

But please don't harm yourself-either by starvation/over-exercising or cutting. Just look at your life, try to identify what's wrong with it, what you'd like to see improve or change and work on fixing that.

To an extent we can be our own worst critics and torturers. I used to be well built, but I'm now out of shape, it bothers me a lot because that's not how I see myself or wish others to see me and also cause my friends are fit and I'm not.

They of course make fun of me for it-that doesn't affect me actually, my own disappointment with letting myself go does, since I was fit most of my life.

But I know I will eventually get in good shape again, because I'm a very disciplined person. Till then I really am not happy with the way I look so I suffer with these feelings.

So you're not alone feeling the way you do, but I think you're taking things to an extreme. If you can't solve the problem yourself, look into getting professional help.

Stay engaged with your friends, they will help you feel normal and human. If you isolate yourself, you will intensify whatever mental anguish you're going through.

Stop being hard on yourself and instead learn to love and accept yourself the way you are, you deserve not to suffer. Hope my advice helped.

Nigga please..

You only weigh 97 pounds, and you think you're FAT? LMAO.

I bet you are only asking this because you want people to say that you aren't fat..

Im 6ft, 30 pounds heavier....

And Im skinny as fuck.... Now im crying :'(

being 5 foot 3 inches and 97 pounds makes you underweight if anything!!!

Honey, you're not fat! At your weight, you can't have much excess fat at all, so you really shouldn't feel fat. Try to realize that most of the people your age and height are HEAVIER than you. Doesn't that make you feel better? You're not a typical weight for someone who is 5'3, so let's say you're in a room of 50 random people. In that room, you'd most likely be one of the 5 skinniest!

Keep your head up and remember your not alone my brother has depression and my sister got pregnat an her boyfriend left her and BOTH my parents have cancer. Dont worry about your weight because your not overweight any doctor will tell you. It's probably the way you see yourself like a bad self image like I used to have. Dont cry an beat yourself up because like I did someday you'll realize how much you love yourself regardless.

I know how you feel, but you must realize that you're NOT fat at all! I could probably understand your plight if you were feeling the way you were feeling because of the issues in your family, such as your mom being sick with cancer or because of your brothers...those things will certainly drain a person and make them feel as though there's no hope in life, but you have the power to change what you don't like about yourself! Although I don't think you need to lose weight, do what makes you feel great about yourself, if you fall off the wagon one day...then pick yourself up the next day and keep going! We all fall once or twice in life, but we gotta dust ourselves off and keep going in order to get to our destination!

Btw, before you lose anymore weight, please seek help...I think you may have a problem!

be careful darlin your hovering around a dangerous area. yes you may have something wrong with you. you may be in the early stages of anorexia. talk to someone that is not a threat of exposuer to you and get out! yuor friends love you and you wont feel that unless you spent time with them. try making meals more ritualistic by sharing them with loved ones. incorperate snacks and or treats into activities. health foods stores farmers market healthy cooking class were you will also meet people nice bonus. be good to yourself.

You're everything but fat. BMI test says you're underweight. So enjoy your life and live it to the fullest before wasting it all away in depression.

You should ask for help from your family Dr, a public health or a youth clinic, or school guidance. Just because a lot is going on in the family troubles department, doesn't mean you should ignore yours. Get the help you need.

Awww don't feel that way :) Even if it's difficult i'd force yourself to go out with your friends and EXPLAIN this TO them -only to the closest ones though- and they will understand for sure and help you (: i can see why you dont wanna tell your family but your friends will be glad to help !! good luckkkk x