Is it normal i hid that i masturbate from my husband?

I feel embarrassed to let my husband know I masturbate to porn. Is this normal or I'm I just over thinking it?

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  • MisterPapaya

    Your husband would probably be thrilled that you masturbate. You could do it together. Grab a glass of wine, pop in a porn you both find sexy, grab your favourite toys and make a date of it.

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    • xfg58

      Agree.. most men would be thrilled to find out their woman masturbates to porn. What's to be embarrassed about?

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  • Bailey_Rose

    lot of women are unfortunately very insecure about their bodies. I guess it could be normal to hide that, but I say you should open up to him about it. I once walked in to the bedroom because I got home from work unusually early, and found my now ex wife full on naked and spread eagle going to town on herself while a porn video was playing......It only elevated our sex life to a whole new level!!!!

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  • anaesthetize

    It's totally normal chill!

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  • MrDexter

    Normal to be insecure but I'm sure he most men would love to hear about it.

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  • McBean

    If you were married to me, I would ask you to masturbate for me. In this way, I would learn how to pleasure you better. Mmmmmmm, I would also buy you a vibrator. A stimulated vagina is a happy vagina.

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  • Nickvey

    he might like to watch you rub off to porn. just ask him if he would like to see it.

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  • JonathanOo

    No most men want to know. Tell him so he can have a better idea of what turns you on. Share your sexuality with him

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  • Nikkij

    The feeling it's self can be embarrassed. As girls some of us are taught masturbation is wrong. That it's normal for a guy. But for a girl it's dirty and perverted. Embrace it don't be embarrassed odds are he'll like it. But if it doesn't what you do when he's not around won't hurt him any. I had an ex who caught me masturbating. He took my vibrator and broke it and told me only losers masturbate. So I dumped him right there and told him I guess I'm a loser and left.

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    • Boojum

      Good for you!

      Destroying your property and trying to decree what you're allowed to do with your own body is outrageous. Would he have broken your fingers if he'd caught you using them?

      You ex sounds like someone with a thoroughly fucked-up view of the world, and some serious sexual and anger issues. More self-administered orgasms would probably have made him a more pleasant person to be around.

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      • Nikkij

        Honestly he might have.

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  • Boojum

    Odds are good that he's doing the same thing, of course.

    Whether or not you're over-thinking depends on what sort of relationship you and your husband have.

    Does he know you masturbate at all? Many men find it very sexy to watch a woman giving herself pleasure. For me, that's partly because I just like seeing and hearing a woman have an orgasm, and partly because it confirms that she isn't just having sex to please me, but rather because she enjoys it.

    If your husband has never seen you masturbate, maybe it would be a good starting point for you to surprise him sometime. There's nothing much sexier than a guy walking into the bedroom and seeing his partner sprawled naked on the bed with her busy fingers on her pussy, and her saying something like, "I've been thinking of you."

    If he already knows that you masturbate, you could just bring up the subject of porn at some point, and ask him what he finds interesting. As I said, it's almost certain that he does watch it at least now and then, so you need to be careful in how you approach this. You don't want him immediately thinking that you're going to slam him if he admits that he does use porn.

    Of course, there's no obligation on you to share your sexual fantasies with your husband, any more than he's required to share his with you. What goes on in our heads is private, and sometimes it's best if it remains that way. However, sharing fantasies can be a very good way of keeping passion alive in marriages.

    Just out of pure, prurient curiosity, what sort of porn do you like?

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    • Jorellana22

      Thank you for your intake. It is very helpful and I appreciate your honesty

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      • insanebotv21

        Yeah he'd probably be embarrassed to tell you what he does

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  • rayb12

    Its normal men hate when women masturbate. You are not being insecure at all. Make sure he never finds out you even have a vagina. How embarrassing!! Stick to discussing the new York times and what u hear on the radio.

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  • Nickvey

    not very normal.

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