Is it normal i haven't had sex/dated in 4 years?

I haven't had sex for two months. If youre feeling the need to have a female (vagina) in your life, then youre gonna have to put yourself out there more

Whats so wrong with being alone, or "lonely" as you put it? Is it really that bad when you stop to actually think about it? Sure its not quite ideal at least by society's standards of "your not married and dont have kids?!?, well something is sure wrong with you!"

But isnt it a bit better then say having a wife that rampantly cheats on you but wont leave because she can spend your money, or just nags the shit out of you and secretly resents you and regrets the day she married, threatening divorce every time you do something she "disapproves" AND/OR kids that you have nothing in common with, dont bother speaking to you, and treat you as if you were a cash machine and nothing else?

I dont know about you, but being alone doesnt sound all that bad.

And if it is that bad to you then join a dating site or do something else that will put you into contact with other people.

I was like that for 3 years. No one interested me, no guy swayed me. Then I met the love of my life and now I can't imagine being without him. With every guy I've ever dated, I've never been attached or seemingly "wanting" them, they never lasted more than 3 months. But now I can't stand the thought of my life without his in it, and it's been a little over a year. :) You'll find someone like that, too, don't give up. IMO it's better to wait and carefully make a decision (not trying to make it sound like it's a game or anything), because it's really rewarding when it happens.

I think that you may be trying to hard, and might be getting Anxious about having gone so long without someone special in your life. If you are nervous other people will be turned off to you, try to just be yourself.

Normal, but as mentioned above, no one is perfect and everyone's a little different. It's good to find someone who's at least a little like you, but don't expect someone just like you in a girl's body. Besides, it's the differences that make relationships interesting!

yumi x

Keep your expectations high and don't settle for second best just to be in a relationship. You deserve it and the right one will come along if you are patient

I used to be just like this. I would lose interest in a guy so fast for quite a few years until I met someone who doesn't have the same interest or intellect but somehow it works. I wouldn't say I lowered expectations; I just decided to open my mind and lower the wall I had surrounding myself. I'm more book smart but he's more street smart if that makes sense and somehow it works! I knew him for a long time before we dated and would ignore him until one day I decided to give it a try. You might be surprised what happens when you open yourself up to new things.

Thanks, Ldizzy. You've given me something to think about.

Psh I haven't had sex since Dec. '09 and i feel like I'm different, all my friends either have sex frequently or they're virgins and I'm just the dormant one but get this we're all around 17-18 haha

I don't think you're afraid of relationships. I think you're afraid to go with someone who doesn't meet up to your standards/expectations. You said that they weren't worth talking to because their intellect and interests didn't match yours. Thats sad. Maybe you should start giving people a little bit more of a chance. If I had a dollar for everytime I tell people, "Nobody's perfect", I think I would be a billionare by now.

You need to look beyond the "blemishes" that come with what makes humans human. Everyone is gonna have differences, and flaws. You just need to learn to accept them. Once you begin accepting them, you might very well begin to like them. And from my own experiences I've noticed that sometimes you think you have it all figured out about someone, until one day you realize that you were wrong. You could belive something about someone..."oh, they're into that... so they must be like that then..." but you could be wrong. They could turn around and surprise you. Sometimes it takes people time to open up, showing their true selves. It takes patience, but it's worth it. You might think you've seen it all, but you really haven't.