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It's been 2 and a half years now since my last relationship. I haven't been with any girls since then, not even kissed any. Idk, i've just been really lonely. Haven't met any girls, haven't had any interested in me.
It wasn't this way back then, but now that i stop and think about it, it's really been getting to me lately. is it normal?
People put too much stress on themselves when it comes to "meeting someone". Live life and have fun, one day BLAMMO! She will be standing right in front of you!
I have never been in a relationship which is many more years than two. It's normal, sometimes it takes time to heal from breakups.
This is normal, and it could indicate room for emotional growth. I've been in a relationship for over 8 years with my wife, and one of the key differences between me and my single friends is confidence.
Let me be clear, before I met my wife, I had over 3 interested AND attractive women, which I would never have dreamed a few years prior. I am not especially good looking or much of a conversationalist. I'm even overweight and I suspect may suffer from a mild case of Aspergers!
So, why in the hell did my wife want me? Confidence and an insatiable desire to not let any obstacle stop me.
Most men mistake confidence as being cocky. Wrong. Cocky assholes are not confident, they're compensating. I knew that I had limits, but I didn't let them stop me from enjoying myself or working my rear off to overcome them. I knew what I liked, and I knew what I didn't like. I let my freak flag fly high, and I wore it with a badge of honor.
This is in contrast to a few years' earlier where a depressed, lonely 20-something was not at all confident, had major social issues, and as a result, was depressed.
It was then that I realized the only person holding me back was me. I was a Clingy, pathetic mess, and it was because I put too much effort into analyzing others' perceptions of me and my perceptions of their perceptions. What a loser! And I was communicating it non-verbally to everyone else too!
So, I decided at that moment that I was going to make a change. I lost a few pounds with diet (major confidence and energy booster), started to find out what I REALLY liked by experimentation, and I got out more. I made social faux-pas, but I realized that it was a learning process, I apologized, and I moved on. A few years' later, I came to the realization that everyone else had the same fears, concerns, and inhibitions that I experienced, but I knew more about myself, realized that it's OK to be single, and that if someone has a problem with me, it could very well be their issue.
So my advice is to take a breather, realize that you have more to offer than what you currently perceive, take a moment to appreciate the pros of being single, get active, and force yourself into social situations (NOT A BAR) that involve your hobbies and interests.
Who knows? Maybe you can improve on my two years of ramp-up time before you find your partner?
wait till your done morning over the loss of your x you need time to heal psychologicly and id you rush into soemthign new right away or before you done , you wont be psychologocly well enough for the new relationship and it wont go well ( I say this from expireince
yah if it affected you very badly in a way your morning and your still getting over it , dont rush into a new relationship to short after something like that becuase the second relationship after wont work well enough
Me too :[
Haven't touched a single woman in about 2 years. Only had one girlfriend. The breakup really affected me