Is it normal i haven’t done this yet?

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I’m 25.... been with my first boyfriend for 8 months. It took me a couple of months to have sex with him, I’ve always had anxiety about that about doing it wrong or not be able to perform, it’s taken me until now to stay being a bit more relaxed. The thing is I haven’t given him a blowjob yet.... and honestly I feel awful and my anxiety is telling me he will leave... he said it’s fine but he does keep hinting. But I’m kinda scared.... what If I do it wrong? What if I find it horrible? How do I even do it?

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    The trick is to bite down on his dick as hard as possible, until it bleeds. That’s the key to giving a good blowjob.

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    Unless you bite, there is no wrong blowjob. One hand on der shaft and one on the thigh. POW! Cheers!

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    • Boojum
      4 years ago

      My personal preference is for just what you suggest, but I know there are guys who like to feel teeth. Not biting (well, probably not for most), but a little scraping now and then.

      Does nothing good for me, but then dangerous sports don't either, and I have wondered if some guys get off on feeling there's a little risk when getting a BJ.

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      I like no hand on my cock more.

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      • litelander8
        4 years ago

        I'll keep that in mind..?

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        • Doesnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Just in case! If your current relationship doesn't work out....I am single atm. I'd tap you.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    When you're ready ask him to show you what he likes.

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    • 19sammi91
      4 years ago

      Great suggestion.. I was thinking the same thing before I read your comment lol..

      If you have never given a blowjob before.. there is no harm in asking how to do it and how he would like it..

      Besides.. whatever you do I am sure he would enjoy it thoroughly!! ;) ;)

      Ps. I know anxiety sucks balls (wasn't using that as a pun!! Haha) but try and see if you can just relax a little more and go with the flow.. I know itll be hard but it will be so worth it!!

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  • DIO
    4 years ago

    How could you even know if you don't try?

    Having anxiety about something you've never even tried is stupid.

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  • bleedingdiarhea
    4 years ago

    Theres no way to really be bad at it, unless you hurt him by biting of course. Just relax. I'm sure he will understand if you're not perfect at it and he will probably like it if you ask him how he wants you to do it. Good luck.

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  • Jennifer21
    4 years ago

    It will come natural once you start. He will also guide you as to what pleases him. Just relax and let nature take over! You’ll do fine!

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    Some women find it unpleasant because some guys can be pretty disgusting when it comes to genital hygiene. Some women find it unpleasant because they can't get the thought out of their head that the guy urinates with his penis, and their Mommy did a very good job in convincing them that urine is dangerous and disgusting. Some women find it unpleasant because the guy expects them to do what they've seen professional, hugely-experienced porn actresses do: take the whole length and bob up and down on it like a demented chicken pecking at corn.

    As with most sex, knowing techniques and moves can make it better and more enjoyable for both parties, but the most important thing is what's going on in your head.

    If you're only giving him oral sex because you feel you have to in order to keep him in your life, that's not a great starting point. It turns something which you might potentially enjoy (and lots of women do) into a duty, and duty-sex is rarely good sex.

    This really isn't the place to ask for detailed oral sex advice, but there's no shortage of internet sites which do have serious, credible advice for women in your position. Googling "how to do fellatio" results in nearly 40 million hits, and there's bound to be something there which will help you.

    I wonder if he's ever given you oral sex. Lots of guys are amazingly one-sided when it comes to oral, and that's fundamentally unfair.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Just do it you know you want to. It's hard to do it wrong just don't bite. He will not be picky.

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