Is it normal i have trouble letting go

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I keep thinking about things that have happened to me in the past, both good and bad things. I basically live in the past. For example i remember the day i went to first grade, everything was so easy back then. It was 12 years ago. I have excellent memory, i remember every single detail. I try not to think about it or any other memories but i cant. I am already severly depressed.

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  • Fall_leaves
    7 years ago

    So do I, it's not fun living in memories. It's not easy moving forward in life when everything reminds you of something that happened in the past.

    I'm not sure what to tell you, since I've never learned how to let the past go. I guess being present and living in the moment is one way to grow from it.

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  • gatekeeper007
    7 years ago

    We all re-play the past over& over. I suggest a professional to help u work thru any particularly tough parts.Good Luck!

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    7 years ago

    Having this problem now it's 3 in the morning and my mind has decided now is the time to go over all the cringeworthy memories i have

    i always dream of high school and college, i always think of good times and how they've become bittersweet

    i always think of the people i used to know, the people i wish i used to know, the chances i didn't take

    sometimes i just drift off into remembering my skating days when all i had to worry about was music and teenage angst which at the time seemed so suffocating now seems so sweet

    then that leads into hypothetical, the imagined split timeline if i'd made different choices,

    when you're depressed the past can be encompassing and i wish i could tell you how to look forward but at the very least i can tell you you're not alone

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    7 years ago

    Are you sure your memory is that good? People tend to romantisie their childhood a lot. Sure things were simpler when you didn't know anything about the world, but you also had no freedom at all and were probably scared of everything. I mean you couldn't even decide when to go to bed, what movies you could watch and what to spend money on. Now you can do whatever the hell you want. Cause you're an adult. If you want you can go buy the coolest toy in a store and then break it in front of a bunch of crying children. Who's gonna tell you not to?
    I mean ... don't do that, that's cruel. But then why would you give a sh*t what I say. I can't tell you nothing. You make your own decitions and that is AWESOME! Being a grown up rules! Don't believe me? Ask a kid.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I do have a very good memory. Sometimes i hate it because i think of old memories and i get sad. I have few memories from 12-13 years ago where i remember my whole day. People dont believe me when i tell them about it

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      • AbnormallyAwesome
        7 years ago

        I believe you. But what are the days you remember? Probably significant days that were exciting, right? Do you remember a boring day where you just had to do your homework and go to bed even if you didn't want to? Because I bet there were lots of those.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          There are days that were boring and days that were exciting, i remember both very well, and its just not my childhood, i remember days from 3, 4 or 6 years ago very clearly.

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          • AbnormallyAwesome
            7 years ago

            But then what was so much better about those days? What could you do that you can't do now?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              7 years ago

              Back then i didnt have to worry about anything. Now i have bills to pay, put food on table. I have also lost many people that i loved and cared about.

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  • freedom_of_sex
    7 years ago

    ahmm, I don't know what to say. But, It is good to have such sharp memory :) Use your brain on some excellent works so that past can't disturb you :) And if it remembers, take it all positive. No matter, good or bad. Those are all situations. Those were not your fault. just think whatever bad happened in your past, it just had to be. then throw your thoughts away. If you are still confused and depressed, go for a counseling :)

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