Is it normal i have sexual fantasies involving kids

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I masturbate often and have discovered that if I fantasize about a scenario involving pre pubescent kids, I'm usually able to orgasm. This is only in fantasy. In daily life I have no interest in kids. I actually dislike them very much and don't find them sexually interesting in the slightest, but for some reason I'm aroused by my fantasies of them. I have fantasies involving both girls and boys. The girls are usually just having their bodies exposed in some way and there might be an eating out situation but I never imagine them getting penetrated or performing oral. I usually only imagine the boys watching inappropriate things.
For example, one of my fantasies takes place in a private school. I imagine there's one chick about 12 yrs of age who gets in trouble one too many times. For her punishment she is made to come to the front of the class. The hot older female teacher yanks her panties down, has her bend over the teachers desk, and the teacher lifts the girl's skirt, exposing the girl's lower body to all the boys and girls in class. She is then spanked with a wooden paddle.
I have variations of this fantasy, including an all girl private school where panties are not allowed, pornographic sex education class, and one fantasy about a 10 yr old boy and his slutty 19 yr old babysitter.
Keep in mind that I have no interest in any actual kids in real life and I never fantasize about kids that actually exist.

I'm a female by the way, and this is not a trolling effort. I really want to know if this is normal at all or if I may have a problem. Some background info– I was molested by a woman at a very young age, I was molested again as a child by older male cousins, and I've been raped twice before turning 18.

Your fantasies are completely normal 19
Its ok because you don't desire real kids 9
Its a little fucked up. You may have a problem 8
Its kind of ok because you have been traumatized. 8
There is nothing ok about this 4
You're probably going to hell 3
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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    Lots of people get molested and don't have the fantasies. So I don't think it is normal. But what do I know about normal? I would talk to someone about this, like a therapist. IIN isn't going to provide a lot of good / serious answers on this question.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thank you

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      • shuggy-chan
        11 years ago

        Yes this is above my credentials, but it normal for someone in ur situation and I think seeking professional help might help u understand these thoughts/fantasies better

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          I plan on seeing someone.

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    normal, what you fantasize about and what you desire in real life are often two very different things.

    And I'd speak to someone about your trauma, I hope the people responsible are in prison for a very long time.

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  • DublinGirl
    7 years ago

    Ironically, the most unusual part of this post for me is that, despite masturbating 'often', which suggests a strong sexual impulse, none of your fantasies appear to involve you being a participant, but merely an observer of children, observing other children.

    As far as the very broad term 'normal' is concerned, I don't doubt there are many who share similar fantasies to your own - in fact, the general premise of your revelation isn't new to me.

    I was once on a school camping expedition with a group of other pubescent girls who became more bold the longer we engaged in a chat about sex, reaching a point where the fantasies, whether genuinely indulged in, or not, became more and more outrageous.

    One very shy girl, who couldn't be persuaded to speak whilst in the group, confided to me later in the darkness as we slept beside each other that she had fantasies similar to your own. Hers, however, focused only on very young boys having sex with much older girls and women. When I asked if those fantasies included her as a participant, she whispered, 'Yes, sometimes'.

    Knowing her for the reserved, serious girl she was, I have no doubt she was telling the truth.

    My view is that there should be a recognition that sexual fantasies include all manner of acts, from what would generally be accepted as mild, to extremes which most would be utterly repulsed by - necrophilia, to name just one.

    Without wishing to diminish the pedophillic aspect attending your fantasies, I'd say that, as long as there's no danger of you wanting to act upon them and they remain firmly in the fantastical world of your imagination, they really are small beer on the sexual fantasy scale. And they're only a 'problem' if, despite acknowledging this, you're still uncomfortable about having them. Otherwise, just go with it, safe in the knowledge that, in the greater scheme of things this is pretty lightweight stuff.

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    Very interesting post, indeed. In addition to talking to a psychotherapist, try to have normal sex with men on a regular basis. If you want to be sexually normal, you have to fuck.

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  • Blade884
    10 years ago

    I think this is very common. I think its the innocense that is attracting us, not really their age. I think if you had an annocent 25 year old you would be just as excited. Prob is who is innocent at that age? No one, so you have to go back in age.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Honestly I think what attracts me the most is the fact that its wrong.

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  • DavidS.
    11 years ago

    do you have a normal sexual relationship? people with a real strong fantasy life often start to prefer that to real life because of the anxieties that real people cause

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