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Is It normal i have not called my boyfreind in days and I'm not worried about it?
I'll like to think that it's because I've suddenly become very busy and so is he. He's quite busy too. We used to chat always through text, calls.... but now we barely even talk to each other. Is this normal?
You should somehow communicate more. But, like others have said here, you both should agree on how and how often.
And, I agree with what others have said here, as a relationship gets older, and you get more comfortable with each other, you tend to not communicate as much. But, it is also how a relationship falls apart.
It shouldn't be a "chore" to talk to each other...you should want to, look forward to it.
I am like you, I could go a week away from home and not call my wife. It doesn't mean I don't love her. But, she wants to talk daily. She works too, and is too busy during the day to talk. So, we agree, I call her (or she calls me) every night between 9-10 pm, unless of course there is something important we need to discuss, then we call or text, and it is brief. We talk for a varied length of time. It keeps us connected. Same thing when I am home. We have a routine, we are both busy doing stuff, but, by 9PM, we are usually both sitting on the couch, and, we talk.
How is he when you ARE together? Is he engaged in conversation, WANTS to talk about stuff, or is it hard to pull things out of him? Most people are CHAMPS when it comes to talking about themselves...they can go on FOREVER telling you about their day, or, things that happened to them or are important to them. So, if he isn't even doing that, well, something tells me, there is a problem in the relationship.
Not even a text/call to check in on each other? It doesn't sound normal to me. But then again, I am one who texts my bf throughtout the day and see him every night. Send him a quick message just to let him know he's on your mind, he will probably appreciate it if he cares and maybe it'll get the flow going again.
It's normal to not contact a SO for days. Some people have different modes of communication, and if you're both in sync, hell even not contacting a partner for a week would be okay. But your description seems not normal for several reasons. I've noticed how "not worried" sometimes translates to apathy. Not always ofc, but there is a definite correlation.
Normal if you're getting bored with each other or one of you is interested in someone else
Maybe he lost interest in you...guys these days jump fast from one girl to another...if you know.