Is it normal i have never had a boyfriend at 18?

Just recently turning 18, I'm starting to feel worse about myself. Guys just aren't interested in me. Guys never look at me in a way thinking "oh she's pretty" or "i should go talk to her". I can't say that I really know how to approach a guy either.
I don't really have any guy friends, besides my gay best friends, but that doesn't exactly count.
I'm not courageous, I can't just go up to a guy, and even say hi. I want to be able to, but I'm so scared of rejection of being hurt so many times.
Sometimes I feel I might be picky, but I just want to be happy. Doesn't everyone deserve that?
So, I've never had a boyfriend. I've kissed/made out with a few guys at some parties, but that's it.
It's upsetting when I think about it, because it seems guys are attracted to my friends, and they never look at me.
I stop and think that maybe there is something wrong with me.

And yes, I know that at 18, I have my entire life. but, it doesn't help right now..

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  • rin

    Maybe you don't notice the guys who think "oh she's pretty" or "I should go talk to her". Some guys are shy too. Do you show interest in anyone? If there's a guy your interested in make eye contact and smile when he catches you..start off with that.

    That's my best advice... XD

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  • Pisslan616

    I'm a 19 year old guy and I'm pretty much the same. I haven't even had a proper kiss yet.

    I wish I knew how many (if any) people have fancied me in the past and didn't tell me. If they had only told me then maybe I would have been with someone by now and I'm guilty of this too. There was a girl I really liked but never told. In the end she ended up going out with one of my close friends. It's hard to approach someone and ask them out if you don't have that much self confidence.

    I also worried that any girl I asked would feel insulted that I (of all people) was interested in them. I didn't feel like I'm very attractive.

    I'm sorry that I have talked so much about myself in (after all) your story but maybe you can relate to some of it. And if you can't then there are 1001 stories just like this on here so I'm sure you will find something.

    My friends tell me I need to build up my confidence and try to flirt more (or at all). So yeah if that helps.

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  • ariannel

    I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 22. But thats because no man caught my eye until then. Sometimes its just a matter of right place/right time.

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  • bootynopubes

    Dude your 18. go have fun.be a tease.you know every thing in life will get harder as you get older. want some free advice i should find a way to sell??? Here it is go browse through the relationship IIn's you might realize you're lucky to nrot be locked down

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  • helluvabunny

    I used to not be popular with the guys, when I was a teen. My first bf was when I was 19! but just don't worry about it...and you'll notice that they'll notice you more.

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  • deedaking314

    Ifeel you that's how I was in like middle school not to funny or anything but try introducing your self like start with that & work your way up ... Like I understand you may be shy but you got to get out of that or try having 1 of your friends walk over & talk 2 guy haha it's called a wingman it works for us guys all the time

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  • estherg

    Yes this is normal. I felt like this once too. I was certain I had a genetic mutation that made me un-likable! In terms of attracting male attention, it just sort of...happens. Sorry to be so vague. I made male friends through female friends, joined a sports club and ended up dating my friend's boyfriend's best friend! Don't stress! Beauty, too, is in the eye of the beholder.

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  • Energy

    Well to be honest, if you want guys you got to work for them! Force yourself to start talking to them and being more social around them! The more you talk to them the more confidence you shall gain! You have to understand us guys we aren't some mystical creatures, we're humans! Just like you girls! Please, don't be scared of us. We like you and we like when a girl shows interest in us :)

    That's my point of view anyway :P

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    • rin

      I'm not a mystical creature? :(

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      • Energy

        Ok fine, you are. >.> geez..

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  • Dozis

    Well I never had a gf since I turned eighteen! how about a pizza and a coke and a walk in the park? I promise I won't rape you. At least Give me a Call ! Bitch.
    I like joking around.
    I really am very romantic softie.

    you have the same problem most girls who did not grow up trying to emulate britney spears or some other popstar have got, you just do not meet the required specifications most guys in your area are looking for. You just have to look for someone who is not "most guys". It is like searching for a pin in a haystack but, as you said, you got all the time! there is no hurry! pss! pss! come by my place at ten o'clock this evening. (slipping flier in your bra) just kidding. Finding a guy sometimes is like going out for a hunt. you just need to locate and identify the right victim to make your web for, then creep up a little and wait for him to become entangled in your drool. by which I mean yeah, the web.Erhm.Ew. That sounds awful.Just,please, don't marry the first ahole unloading some semen up your snatch.

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    • iindia

      How enlightening

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