Is it normal i have lost interest in dating and sex for these reasons?

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I'm sure there are lots of girls who like me. I'm pretty popular with the ladies and I do like taking them out for fun activities. However I don't want any kind of relationship and I've even started to lose interest in sex over the years.

I'm not quite asexual, but whenever I've had sex in the past it often causes more problems than it's worth. For example it seems most girls will expect more out of it and it's always too much effort to get to that point just for a 15 second moment. Jacking off can be pretty satisfying anyway.

I grew up with parents who didn't get along. They finally got divorced when I was in my 20's but they had been separated for about 10 years before then. I don't know why people think parents staying together when they don't get along is good. It was somewhat of a relief when they split up. I'm not sure if this has to do with my disdain for romance or not.

I cannot deal with the sensitivities and feelings that most people have either. I only feel annoyed when someone is upset and I feel unable to tolerate peoples insecurities.
I do not understand why people can't just deal with things yet I'm told I'm mean for being annoyed with peoples issues when they're not even my problem to begin with.
Despite this I'm actually a very nice guy and I like to share with friends and make people have a good time.

If I ever do have a relationship again somebody will really have to impress me. Otherwise it seems like a burden and waste of effort.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I think your post is very sad and disheartening.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      What makes you say that?
      I'm curious about your input on this because you seem to have good life experience and advice.

      Part of me feels content this way, but there's been a part of me that wonders if I'm missing out on things that I will regret when I'm old and dying.

      My uncle was the same way and past away last year. He never expressed any interest in dating or women. I always figured he was asexual and throughout my whole life I never saw him with a woman. He traveled the world and his life was full of adventure but on his death bed he said he regretted never getting married.

      I do have a lot of female interaction and have had girlfriends, but it was always such a chore for me that I quit caring. I got fed up with all the effort I put into that sort of stuff and started thinking about all the other things I could have focused on with all that wasted effort.

      I get along with people great on a casual setting but when it comes to deeper relationships I seem unable to connect with anyone and I do not understand people at all which seems necessary for these sort of things.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Of all my adventures and experiences, I think my relationships have been the most rewarding and enjoyable parts of my life. Be they only a few hours in a city, passing through with a band in the 60's, or a decade of marriage with a woman that didn't end too well, each and every one was a meeting of two souls that became one for a period of time.
        I realize that not everybody needs or desires those experiences, but for those who don't, I feel they are missing one of the best things life has to offer, and that makes me sad.
        My greatest fear is to be on my death bed and regret the things I didn't do.

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  • Petrichor.
    9 years ago

    You sound like someone who has a mental disorder, if you do, depending on which type of disorder it is, then I think this might be normal.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      I have been diagnosed with a few mental disorders but I don't see what that has to do with my post.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy
    9 years ago

    I can relate bro. I'm not all about commitment. I have a girlfriend but everytime she tries to talk about marriage and stuff I try to rub it off and change the topic. In your case, I do know you'll find someone. Bro code #23 : There's that one lady that will change a dude's perception towards women forever.

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