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So basically I've been stalking this girl I liked in schools facebook for 3 years. Haven't added her or anything, just go there to stare at her, it's the only thing that makes me feel semi happy. But then I get sad because I could never date her or anything. Is this normal?
You sound obsessed, and like a bit of a masochist. You are, in a way, torturing yourself.
Well I can't stop thinking about her no matter what. The only time I get any relief is when I first go to her page and see her smiling. But then I think how I can never be with her and even if I could be with her she deserves much better. I don't think I'd call it obsession or masochism, I just can't get her off my mind
If you can't stop thinking about her no matter what and can't get her off your mind, you ARE in fact obsessed.
You could stop this if you really wanted to, but you don't, do you? If ever you want to stop, you're going to need therapy to help you do it and the longer you keep repeating this behaviour the harder it will be to change to something more positive
No I don't want to stop thinking about her, who would want to forget such a perfect person existed, I just want to know is it normal and maybe stop feeling so sad about it.
It's not normal, however crushes are normal. For a normal person, the options are pretty simple really.
You can suck it up and try to find a way to talk to her. Yeah you're going to be really nervous because it's a tough thing to do, especially since you seem to be so insecure, but if you get your mindset right maybe you will get to know each other more. By doing something instead of just thinking about it, that right there takes you up a couple notches because most people won't be that brave. The thing is she might not like you. Whatever happens, you will feel better about yourself. You will know because you tried.
If you won't take that risk, then your other option is to accept it and forget about her, which isn't that hard. Everyone has had a crush at some point, but you've taken this situation to an extreme because you're forcing yourself to keep thinking about it over and over.
It might be normal, not sure exactly how it's going in your head.
It is not good, at all. For yourself that is.
I doubt you're dangerous, I'm sure you aren't. Hopefully....
So you should try to stop.
Yes if your a teenager boy. But it Could be leading to not so normal obsessive behavior just be careful ok ?
It's a bit weird but there must be loads of other people who do that to.
Just out if curiosity.. Why can't you date her or talk to her?