Is it normal i hate when people talk about dead people?

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Okay I really don't know why but I hate when people talk about dead people, especially when the person has committed suicide.

I just hate how they're all, "Oh she was such a good girl," and they praise some parts of the person that they would never have really cared about if the person hadn't died, so they'll say, "Oh she was a nice girl and she participated a lot, yeah," and suddenly, participating seems like such an amazing thing, as opposed to something you're actually supposed to be doing in school. I hate how all the bad qualities of the person are forgotten and everyone just feels pity and reflects on all the amazing things of that person.

I especially hate it when it has to do with bullying, like if someone commits suicide. I know this may seem insensitive to some people, but this is what I feel about it, and I've felt this way ever since I was younger.
I hate how, say, some people bully this person and then that person commits suicide. And a lot of people, if not most, get bullied or something at some point in their lives, so then this person commits suicide. Suddenly, all the adults are sympathizing with the kid and everyone's thinking what dickheads the bullies are.

But let's say the person who committed suicide was mean, too. They had a quarrel with the bullies, and maybe it caused the bullies to get angry and become hateful. I'm not saying it's right to be mean to that person, but just because he/she's dead doesn't make him/her a saint. That person may have been a bully too.

And it's not like bullying is just this fad that appeared 5 years ago, like an iPod or a cellphone, it's been happening for a while, but now people are committing suicide for it. I don't know why. Anyone know?

Anyway, I'm sorry. I don't mean for you to feel upset or hurt if someone close to you or someone you knew committed suicide or something but this is just my opinion. I've said what I meant and you have chosen to read it.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    Bullies ARE dickheads. I hate when people minimise their impact on the bullied person. I also hate when people say suicide is never an option. That's like saying "I want to bully you and you can't escape it"

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  • Sidekickz
    12 years ago

    i hate it when dead people are talking about people!

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    First off, let me just say that I found your post compelling and insightful. I can fully understand your point of view but what you're forgetting is that the people who commit suicide had people who cared about them; whether they knew it or not. Not everyone is purely good nor purely evil. That being said, I highly doubt that the kid being bullied never once thought about wishing malice upon his tormentors. When a person dies, we remember their acts and behaviors. If their behaviors were predominately wicked, then that's how we'll remember them. However, a person getting bullied usually doesn't have the opportunity to be bad because he is the victim and can justify his acts by saying that he's just taking out his anger from being bullied. Some acts can't be justified by this though.

    There are a lot of suicides nowadays, but no one's life is more important than the other. Bullying will always exist and the victim will either be a stronger person cause of it or just another casualty of society. However, just because he committed suicide doesn't mean that he deserves to be forgotten. Suicide effects different people in different ways and a lot of people prefer to view the memory of their friend in a positive way as a coping mechanism to deal with his death; whether it be blocking the fact that they could've helped him or suppressing their jealousy that he got out of this life early.

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  • Mr.Dongle
    11 years ago

    Dead people don't say no. So you can fulfill all your desires; you can do whatever you want with them. I say, " Have sex with them".

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  • Hansberger
    12 years ago

    He's dead so he's an arsehole!

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  • REvEnGE
    12 years ago

    I don't want to be hated. So, not gona write anything about YOU KNOW WHAT.
    lol.

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  • Lynxikat
    12 years ago

    Well... I guess I get what you're getting at. I feel the something similar about dead celebrities. For example: Michael Jackson had been treated as a joke to the media, and not taken seriously as a person within the last years of his life. All of a sudden he dies, and then everyone, especially the media, treats him like he was a saint, as though they never made fun of him... which, in my point of view, is hypocritical.

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    Possibly they were saying good things about these people when they were alive. If you didn't know them, you don't know that.

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