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My brother is 40 & still live with me & my parents, don't pay any bills buy any groceries not even offer but he can bring his children over & let them eat everything when im working to keep groceries & gas in cars to show my appreciation. (Btw im 18 almost 19) I just get so mad when he walk in the door.
no offence but your brother is 40 he should be living in his own home not with his mummy and daddy, but I guess he gets everything handed to him for free he will live their as long as he gets away with it, its a very big age gap between you and your brother strange but I guess all family are different,
In my opinion this is normal. Its perfectly normal to feel the feelings that you feel, after all you are the one working hard and he is the one doing nothing yet in your eyes he is being rewarded. Maybe find out some more about what he actually does, See if you are not seeing all that he does.
You seem to be the independent one. That's good. Now, you see that your family is ok with the situation, and it is their home, so maybe if you don't accept it, it's time for you to leave.
Be careful in these situations the "slacker" would just move to the next available place....yours. This means, don't let him help so much with the moving, don't let him stay over at all until you completely settle in, and after that give rules about the times he should leave and how many days he can visit and how many days he can sleep over. I've seen people mostly women, fall into the motherly position over their lazy brothers or just been taken advantage of.
To revisit your current situation maybe he lost more than you know and is trying to rebuild It's harder than you just imagine. For you starting out, you have no kids, credit build up, behind bills, real relationship problems, anything. You can basically make it anywhere. He has to go through the process of erasing his past before he can simply start over. Once you've made it to 30s you'll see, even if you're doing better than he did, you'll see the position.