Is it normal: i hate the very mention of this person?

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Hey Guys and Girls :)

A few years ago I was best friends with this girl (I am female) and we had a big falling out over some personal issues.

She - in a nutshell - lied about abuse (physical, sexual and emotional) and self harming so that I would open up to her and tell her everything, and I did, but then she and I had a fight when I found out she had lied.

She moved schools (She's a few years my senior and she had gone on to do her A levels), and since then, even though we recovered our friendship, she's been very cold and distant. It's like she's forgotten about me and is spending all the time with her new friends and boyfriend :(

I don't want to sound clingy, but since we were so close, I'm finding it hard to let her go. She's been lying also about her msn and facebook not working so she didn't have to reply, or say she's busy doing work so she couldn't meet up. So even though I tried to do the right thing and talk over my problem with her, she's not listening.

Now every time someone mentions her or talks about her I feel angry or upset and it ruins my whole day because I just see her as a liar and a bad friend even though I don't want to loose her friendship... is this normal?

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Based on 73 votes (65 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You were close to her. She betrayed that trust so of course you're tender about the whole thing. You'd be abnormal to not feel what you do.

    But personal hate is a petty thing and only destroys you. Let it go. BE FREE MY CHILD!!!

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  • MisleadingImpression
    8 years ago

    If I were you, I'd let the friendship go

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Thankyou everyone, honestly I have never heard such kind words :')

    I have moved on now, hopefully they will in time, live a happy life too. Thankyou again :)

    Demonspy xx

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  • NYSDOCS
    13 years ago

    Let it go and move on. Its kind of creepy that you are seeking a friendship with someone that has made it obvious that they dont have time for you. I am sure that you are a nice person and have other friends but as you get older, friendships take a backseat to creating a future. Focus on your 5 year goals for a bit and I bet you will find better friends along the way. Good luck and God bless.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    you've got love and hate and in between is indifference. to come to this i think you have to work on yourself, make you feel better about your self. make plans to move forward in some way, even something small, leave your circle of friends and do something new. indiffernece is nice i recommend it and good luck

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  • mommy3
    13 years ago

    Find someone who deserves your friendship.

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  • mut8ed1
    13 years ago

    Holding a grudge is like letting someone live rent-free in your head.

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    it's understandable that you miss her if you two became close. but obviously she's a bad friend. the only thing to do is just forget about her and find new friends.

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  • NeoZeon65
    13 years ago

    it sounds like to me, she just doesn't ant to be your friend anymore. If that is the case, then find some of your other pals and chill with them. Some people choose to forgive but not forget.

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  • nanimeow
    13 years ago

    I had a similar friendship. I figure either I give it time and we will be close again or just to remember the good times.

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  • TyLee
    13 years ago

    It's hard to let go. I've been in the same situation but it's the only thing you can do.

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