Is it normal i hate the term homophobia?

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I am old enough to remember when the term started to become popular. The stated concept behind it was that people fear what they don't understand, so if they hate gay people they must be afraid of them because they don't understand homosexuality. So they have a phobia of homosexuals. But that was a bullshit explanation. The truth is the term was really meant to shame them by saying they were scared of gay people figuring if they hate gay people, saying they are scared of them should piss them off. In reality there are plenty of people who hate gay people and are not afraid of them at all.

It is exactly the same thing with people who say that if you hate gay people it must be because you are uncomfortable with your own sexuality or secretly gay yourself. In some cases that will be true, but there are many people who are very straight that hate gay people. This is just another attempt at shaming people. They hate gay people so lets call them gay! That is like an 8 year old saying "I know you are but what am I?".

I am gay myself and I have always hated this childish attempt at shaming people. If we sit around pretending they are afraid or us, how are we supposed to deal with the reality that they hate us?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    I do believe the "fear" of homophobia is from the fear of catching homosexuality. It is apparently extremely contagious and no straight person would want to be around a gay person, for that reason.
    I just don't understand why it's not possible for a straight guy to catch lesbianism, only male homosexuality, and vise versa. Is this the only disease that isn't cross gender contagious?

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    The actual word does mean "fear", but most people agree today that it also can mean hatred of gays.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      No, the term was invented to mean fear of gays as a word to use to describe people who hate gays as being afraid of them. This has gone on so long that most people like you have grown up with the word always having been used to identify people who hate gays, so you don't even think about why it is being called a phobia.

      So it is not something that developed over time and the meaning changed, it was very purposeful and deliberate.

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      • NeofelisNebulosa
        8 years ago

        Do you have any proof that this was purposeful and deliberate? Many words naturally change over time, or fall out of favor. And I am aware of the whole "You're secretly gay and that's why you act like you dislike gays" theory. If you don't think homophobia does mean or can mean "hatred of gays," is there another way you would phrase it? There are many people who truly do hate gays, but few who "fear" them, I would think.

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        • [Old Memory]
          8 years ago

          Well this was kind of already explained in my original post but this isn't exactly a term that has been around for a couple hundred years to evolve. It is a very new term, and as I explained when it started to be used, the rational given for its use was that hate is the result of a fear of what you do not understand. So if you hate gays, you must fear them because you don't understand them, so you are homophobic. But as you agreed in your last sentence, that is nonsense. There are many people who hate gays but don't fear them.

          Now if you feel there is nothing wrong with the term as is, that is your opinion, you are entitled to it, and I respect it. But you clearly have no knowledge as to the origin of the word itself and are not claiming to. That being the case, I have no idea why you would argue the point of how it came to be without at least researching the topic to educate yourself on it before hand. Because the origin of the word is not a matter of opinion, it actually had to come from somewhere. Unlike you, I am aware of that origin because I was around when it was developed.

          It was created by a psychologist in the 1960's but didn't really start getting used by the general public until the 80's and it is a fear of homosexuals or of being homosexual yourself. It is used to describe people who hate gays for the reasons I already explained.

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          • NeofelisNebulosa
            8 years ago

            No I didn't claim to know the origin. I just was saying that today, MANY people think it means "hate." It's a common use nowadays. I'm not disagreeing with you.

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            • [Old Memory]
              8 years ago

              I know many people today think that, and they think it without ever wondering why. I said all that in my original post. And it does mean a person who hates gays, but it is a fear based hate, which I think most people such as yourself are unaware of. It is that fear part that I disagree with.

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  • Crvsades
    8 years ago

    I agree. Phobias are irrational fears not contempt or distaste for certain types of behavior. Fear has nothing to do with these people's reaction to homosexuality.

    It isn't even gay people's intention to point out the fear element. It's more like a tactic to deceive society into thinking that it's the ones who dislike gays that have the "disease". I say disease because that is how they want it to sound like. That explains the correlation between phobias (who are irrational mental illnesses) and the term homophobia. Homophobia isn't even a real disease. Yet they want to classify it as such. Homo "phobia" is just a reaction caused by prejudice and/or lack of knowledge regarding human behavior.

    But yeah, it's a diversion more than anything else. Gay people want to act like they are normal and it's the others who have the illness.

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  • NathanScot
    8 years ago

    I'm having mixed reactions.I hate gays and everything about these fucking fairies but i also agree with most of what u've said.Maybe if there were a few more fairies who share your sentiments i might reconsider some things.
    In my mind its definately ok to hate gays,..in the same way i hate things that i dont like.There's nothing special about the hate so why fuking fairies get high on it i dont fucking know.Cher'

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    • CreamPuffs
      7 years ago

      Wow you're really just the bottom of the barrel aren't you?

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  • darausnicht
    6 years ago

    I am a bisexual guy and homophobia is not a thing. It doesn't exist. I have always been on the outside looking in when it comes to that and you both act like your lives are in danger. I have never seen myself as incapable of seeing the world from other points of view. And I can agree with straight dudes. You are in much better social standing compared to the 80's and 90's. I was popular in the goth/punk scene. I only fuck other "bisexual" people. I have a type and that is kind of part of it.

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  • peterrabbyt3
    7 years ago

    I love most gay men.

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