Is it normal i hate people helping me and doing stuff for me.

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I've always hated when people insist on helping me with things or doing things like buying me stuff.
I have never figured out how to get them to stop.
Before you judge me for being an asshole let me explain why.
When people help me with things they are always in my way and prevent me from doing it the way I wanted. Help is always a burden.
When people buy me stuff all they did was waste their money and cause me the burden of getting rid of it. Its always something I don't want and it always goes to goodwill or something similar. I'm the opposite of a hoarder and don't want anything I didn't decide that I wanted.

When I ask to not do things for me they always reply "no, it's ok" which only irritates me because I genuinely do not want their help.

I have recently realized that people may think I say these things because maybe they think I don't want to bother them with it. However that is not the case. I actually could care less if they waste their time and money. I seriously want to stop being bothered. People may think I am unappreciative but why should I appreciate what burdens me.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    I can sympathise to an extent. When people give me help with a task, they are taking away my opportunity to be exeptional. I won't be able to improve by practice if someone helps me, and if someone else does half the work I can only get half the satisfaction or reward for it. And it seems insulting that they assume I can't manage by myself, and suffocating that no-one will let me make mistakes to learn from when I *want* to make mistakes, I *want* to fail sometimes.

    That's only for genuinely difficult tasks, though. If someone offers to make me a cup of tea or something, I'm all over it.

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  • SparklingOcean<3
    10 years ago

    I can understand that. I don't mind when people try to help me, as long as they know what they're doing. But when they get something wrong, they end up messing up everything. The worst part of all is that they NEVER admit they were wrong, so not only did we waste all that time, but they won't even own up to it, so that makes the situation so much more worse.

    Ironically, the things that have helped me the most from people are the random actions and comments that they say and do, because that way I can take new information into account and still be able to do what I want to do.

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  • GinnyWeasley
    10 years ago

    Normal. I can do things by myself and I do them right. People tend to mess things up or do them differently so i rather do them on my own

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  • thr
    10 years ago

    You should make it clear to them that you would really rather not have them help.

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  • Tommythecat.
    10 years ago

    This kind of doesn't make sense. Like I can't figure out what you're saying.

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    God helps those who help themselves

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Me too,,, don't think it's normal tho Lol.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    It might be time to purchase that mountain cabin (or purchase the land and build the cabin yourself?) and go live as a hermit. Unfortunately, people helping others is getting rarer day by day and if there are people who care for you enough to want to help you, then you are a pretty lucky person.
    But hey, that's why I'm the boss at work; things are done the way I want.

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