Is it normal i hate my mom?

Is it normal I hate my mom? I mean growing up she was all we had, (3 siblings and I) our father left when we were little so I was super attached to my mom. To the point that a "yo momma joke" would trigger a violent response from me. But as I got older I began to.understand that she was manipulative and a huge liar. To the point she would make up these huge stories about the way things would happen. She hates my wife. We fell on hard times and were forced to move in with her since no one would help not even a homeless shelter. Yes my anger towards her had grown so much that I tried living in a homeless shelter with my wife and kids before trying to k i ve in with her. She treats my oldest son like shit, ( legally he's my step son) but I love him like he is mine I would do and have done anything for him because he is my son. My hate for her began growing more and more when she started doing shit to my wife an my son. Now even she helped me when no one else would I hate her so much. I hate the way she talks the way she eats the way walks. Everything about her I hate. I tried loving her I really have. I tried putting my pride aside and acted like i was in the wrong just to try and get along with her but she always has to say or do something to fuck that up. She has stolen clothes from my wife then used it as a rag for ckeaning the toilet. When we leave my sister ( married doesnt live here with us) has told me how she let her in to our room so to have a tour of our shit per se. I genuinely hate her honestly if she died tomorrow I feel like I wouldn't be affected too much. I'm a grown 28 year old man but she has literally pissed me off so bad I wound up in the hospital with a mini stroke. I wish I didnt feel like this but shes never going to change. I literally been so pissed off i started shaking and started crying out of anger because she treated my son the same way i was treated by my step moms mom. The exact same way and it triggered flashbacks. My wife was upset cuz she thought i would be having a second stroke shortly after. I wish i didn't hate her specially after helping us but the.bad definitely outweigh the good. She was so abusive with my sister and I growing up. With me it was emotional abuse (you fucking fat ass this and slob etc and with my sister both physical and emotional abuse she told her once i should have sat on your fucking head when you were born i should have killed you. My sister has chronic pain on her knee cuz she hit her with a hammer because she was starting to get interested in boy and has a dislicated jaw cuz she messed her up) my sister loves her, you know cuz of that love in Christ bullshit but im agnostic and HATE MY MOM is this normal?????