Is it normal i hate it when people say this?

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Is it normal that I hate when people say things like "I may be married, but I can look as long as I don't touch." I hate it even if people are just in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship and they say stuff like that. Am I just being naive because I'm not married? Opinions?
Additional info: I'm in a relationship and don't look at other people. I don't find it difficult to stay true completely only to one person. I'm 20 and female if that matters

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  • aussiewolf
    12 years ago

    it doesnt matter where you get your appetite, as long as you eat your meal at home.

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    • Fonzy
      12 years ago

      ^This

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  • Fonzy
    12 years ago

    "Additional info: I'm in a relationship and don't look at other people."

    lol

    Serious note~
    people check people out.
    its natural :|

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    I hate it too. Why do they think that they are entitled to a free view with their eyes? If they wouldn't act on it with their bodies why then do they think it's justifiable because they're only using their eyes?

    I feel like it's a insult to say that when you're in a relationship. It's like they're saying that their mates aren't efficient enough for them. When you are in love, no one else should matter to you, because you're in love with your mate. Nothing should be expected to come between you, even a "free pass with your eyes". If any mate of mine said that to or around me, I would be offended.

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  • nowhereboy
    12 years ago

    Im the same way. I hate comments like that, it kinda makes the whole idea of love seem like a joke, like "yea i love you so much your my one and only" then "phooaar look at the arse on that one" Love is bullshit. Its situational more than anything else.

    I have emotional problems tho, my way of thinking might have somthing to do with that.

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  • Faceless
    12 years ago

    You strip club nazi.

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  • suckonthis9
    12 years ago

    I think that you will be in a lot of trouble in a relationship. Men will always look at sexy females occasionally (or more often sometimes) whether they are in a relationship or not.
    "Look but don't touch" is a good strategy for many people. Some females even prefer their partners to touch other females in order to improve their sex life.
    If you are in a relationship, and you 'catch' your partner looking at another female, instead of becoming annoyed or angry, simply ask him what he likes (or finds sexy) about that female. This can give you important clues or information about how to improve your sex life.
    Any male who tells you that he never looks at other females, when you're not around, is a liar!

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      Ditto any Lesbian or any het woman who says she never looks at males: threads like this make me SO happy to be single: are people in relationships supposed to go round in blinkers and look neither to left nor right, but only straight ahead or at their partners? Phooey

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    • nowhereboy
      12 years ago

      Someone with your user name should not be allowed an opinion. Especially on the subject at hand.

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      • Fonzy
        12 years ago

        boy aren't you supposed to be nowhere?

        lolololol

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    I don't know if it's normal to be annoyed by this but I don't understand why people have to justify themselves looking at other men/women. If you're afraid of your husband/wife just looking at passersby then you might have some insecurity issues. It's a different story if they are going out of their way to do said "looking" in my opinion.

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  • RinTin
    12 years ago

    It's a stupid thing to say..makes you sound like a douche/biatch, but come on who, female and male alike, doesn't notice other females/males?? If you're looking for other people to look at I think that's wrong but if you notice someone who's attractive that's only natural. I even look at women but I don't like women. :)

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  • thinkingaboutit
    12 years ago

    The part-owner of this pizzeria I chill/work at once in a while, very frequently says things like "tell me the truth, if I was 10 years younger, would you go out with me". He also comes on to me very blatantly, even though he's a jokster, and I take nothing to heart. He's married. I kinda feel bad for his wife, b/c he looks at me with a special glitter in his eye. He's only 33 too.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    I might have to clarify that I don't have insecurity issues :P I know my boyfriend loves me very much and I trust him whole heartedly. I just feel like people should be a little more truer to their relationship. It just seems wrong to me to claim to love somebody and then check out the ass of a chick/dude walking by. It makes me want to scoff and say "that's love?"

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      Don't you realise that love (whatever that is) isn't the same as lust? Nice if they go together, but it aint compulsory.

      Obviously comparing other people to a partner in a derogatory way is just plain rude and inconsiderate, but admiring someone else's physical appearance is normal for both genders, always has been and always will be ........

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    • plum6
      12 years ago

      Have you thought about the fact that your boyfriend or any guy for that matter cannot really help themselves? It is nature and instinct for guys to look at women, and it doesn't (normally) mean anything. Take it easy on the guy, as long as he is respectful and committed to your relationship when it comes to direct interaction with other women you have nothing to worry about. I bet you are a little bet jealous by nature which is cute, just don't take it too far.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        12 years ago

        People really have the wrong impression about me ~.~ I'm not jelouse, my boyfriend has also stated his distaste for people saying and behaving like that, before I even brought it up. He just happens to be a really great guy. I don't worry one bit about him looking at other females. People can say he's just lying or whatever, but it doesn't change the fact that I believe him. I really just think that nowadays people are to flimsy on the word "Love" and commiting yourself to someone has become less and less of a full commitment, and it bothers me. I mean, is it really so hard to only see your partner in that way? I don't mind if he sees some star or actress and recognizes that she's attractive, it's when people are staring at her tits and being like "Check dem thangs out ;)" That it seems not okay. If that makes sense. Just reallllyyy wanted to clear that up.

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        • plum6
          12 years ago

          I get what you are saying and I actually agree with you on the fact that people nowadays seem to have a problem with committing to one partner. It is a matter of respect I guess, if you respect your girlfriend and your relationship you would not be disrespectful like that towards other women because you indirectly offend your own girlfriend and show that you are not taking the relationship seriously, so it's great that your boyfriend feels that way as well, it says a lot :)

          However, you should not underestimate the fact that modern day society really feeds this behavior. The actresses or stars themselves (followed by the general public) even encourage it by dressing more and more provocative, they WANT this reaction by guys. and when a guy sees a hot girl parading around half-naked it is just more likely for them to react in such a way instead of disapproving.

          Oh well, if we keep this up in 10 years everyone on tv will be naked anyway and we won't have that problem anymore ;)

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  • Frosties
    12 years ago

    I think it depends on who you are married to and what the parameters of your marriage are. It's between a person and their spouse. I know a couple where the man lets the woman sleep with anyone she wants to as long as she doesn't leave him. That's their proviso. Personally, that goes too far for me. I'd want my wife to be faithful. But if she noticed that another man was attractive, and maybe even flirted a little, that's probably okay. We'd both know what "a little" means and what is likely to upset each other and if we were a good couple, we'd respect each other enough to not stray beyond it.

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  • helice
    12 years ago

    It is quite disrespectful to one's partner to express this sort of flippant disregard for their trust. That being said, if a relationship is open, perhaps there is an agreement between the two parties wherein this is acceptable. It's sort of a case-by-case deal.

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  • yeoldefletcher
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal. One of my mates says it loads too, when he's got a girlfriend who he's been with for 3/4 years. I thin the reason being is I feel bad for his girlfriend. I know I certainly wouldn't want my girlfriend looking at other guys.

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