Is it normal i hate how others see me?

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My friend and people I am kind to oft cal me a good person, or kind, or friendly, or nice, but really, I can't see it. Everyone is their own person but in my head...I just think I'm the most disgusting thing to ever be placed into humanity. This obviously isn't true as I'm exaggerating, there are people who're worse (murderers, child molesters, etc.) [←eeeh if you don't think those kinds of people are bad don't argue, to each their own], but I still think of myself as pretty bad.

It's not that I DO bad things, I just...I don't know, I feel like in my head I'm just a disgusting human being.

I can't really explain it. I mean I don't mind if someone said to me "Oh that was a nice thing to do", but when somebody calls me a good person I'm just like "Whoaa...slow down there mate."

Is this normal?

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    It sounds like you're judging yourself too harshly. Especially as you don't give any examples of things you should be judged harshly for. I'm guessing you probably are a good person. :)

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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    Take a compliment, you're obviously doing something right. And who doesn't think bad thoughts every now and again? I kinda get what you mean though, I sometimes worry about how others see me, and if it's anything close to how I see myself.

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    Your great just the way you are!

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  • aoi2108
    11 years ago

    That kinda sounds like me :)
    Everyone sees me as the perfect girl, but if only they could see inside my head... (or inside my internet history, Google search history or hard drive contents for that matter)

    Are you okay with how people see you now or would you prefer to be seen as the 'disgusting human being' you believe yourself to be?
    Because I've noticed that years after creating this perfect image of myself for the outside world I don't have the courage to be disliked any more.
    Thin about it and act according to your feelings.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Everyone sees me differently, of course. And I'm sure they all know deep down, we've all got secrets, all got something we like to hide.

      And what do you mean you don't have the courage to be disliked? I have people that hate me and I honestly don't care. I hate people too so, I'd be a hypocrite if I said that was cruel.

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      • aoi2108
        11 years ago

        I meant more like to be disliked for being who I really am, or looked down on by people who are close to me or important to me. I'm afraid of what my friends would think of me if they found out the things I don't tell them for example, and that's why it's somewhat hard for me to be myself really.

        Of course I have people that hate me too & I don't care about them.

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  • flutterhigh
    11 years ago

    You're likely to get a lot of "aww, don't be too hard on yourself" comments, but I think that sort of misses your point.

    I tend to do the same thing as you. It's sort of a philosophical dilemma. To me, a kind action doesn't make someone a kind person, because people are much more complicated than that. As if anyone fits so neatly in the category of "kind" or "unkind". So when people tell me I'm a good person, or a ____ person, it feels like they're reducing my entire life to a single choice. I'm not a kind person. I'm a person who did a kind thing.

    I think there's something to be said for being realistic. That being said, studies have shown that people with chronic depression tend be those most realistic about their self-image, so it's not always a great thing.

    The trouble is when you swing to far the other way and start thinking of yourself as a "disgusting" person. Can you explain that a little further? Is it because you have negative or mean thoughts, as opposed to actions?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Well I used to be depressed, but no pills nor the therapist I saw helped me by my standards, and I pulled myself out of it by not caring about school. I'm a much happier person now, but I can't stand when people say "You're so sweeeet" and all.

      And I generally look at the human race as neutral, but I feel like nobody knows what goes on inside my head - well obviously no one knows anyone's head - but I feel like mine is just..I feel like I'm two-faced. Nobody's ever called me that but that's how I feel.

      I just have a hard time identifying myself. I don't know, I can't explain it.

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