Is it normal i hate being asked by my mom if i am ok when i'm not

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Typically I have to lie to her because I know she will pester me about it and make it worse. Sometimes it's something I know how to solve and so going into a conversation about it confuses me and makes me overthink it. Or it's just something she can't help me with and I know it will do me no good to tell her about it. It just makes me overfocus and feel worse.

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  • forever_anon
    11 years ago

    That's understandable. I can relate to needing to think about a problem on your own. It sounds like your mother is the kind of person who needs to talk about her problems, so she assumes other people feel the same. Have you tried being honest with her and saying, "I've been feeling down about situation X lately, but I've thought it over and I know how I will handle it"? She may react better than you expect. She may be proud of you for exercising independent thought and initiative to solve your problems.

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    • Geldsmaggen
      10 years ago

      Except sometimes I don't know how to handle it yet I know that I know how to figure out how to know how to handle it.

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      • forever_anon
        10 years ago

        That makes sense. You could try explaining that to her as well.

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    She may not understand, but she likely knows you are lying. She's probably just concerned. If you don't want to talk to her about it, talk to someone else. Sometimes we all need a little help working through problems. There is no shame in that.

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    • Geldsmaggen
      10 years ago

      It's not about shame. And sometimes I agree I need help but then I also know it won't work unless I verbalize it in the right way and sometimes I'm just not ready. Sometimes I won't be ready until I have scripted it and rescripted it a couple of times but then I'm glad I waited. I'm just a great deal better communicating with writing than with oral communication.

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  • seankessinger
    11 years ago

    Yeah this is normal for me anyways. Sometimes its better to just keep complex problems to yourself if you don't think you want her 2 cents on everything.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yes no maybe i don't know.

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  • iamNOTnormal(:
    11 years ago

    This is completely normal! Most people don't mind being asked if they are okay unless there is something actually bothering them. A lot of people don't like telling other people what's wrong when they're upset. Talking about it usually makes the situation worse or brings it back to mind when you're trying to forget it.

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  • suckonthis9
    11 years ago

    Your mother needs to learn some better words.

    She should be asking if you are feeling or doing 'well'.

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    • gummy_jr
      11 years ago

      Thats basically asking if the person's okay.

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      • suckonthis9
        11 years ago

        Incorrect.

        Would you ask another person if they are feeling fair to middling?

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        • gummy_jr
          11 years ago

          I guess you make somewhat of a point

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          • [Old Memory]
            11 years ago

            Haha...somewhat he is. Somewhat.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    now i'm worried too...are you ok?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    But are you sure you are ok?

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