Is it normal i get pissed off when guys stare at me?

"I know I'm attractive too"
Maybe thats the problem... Things aren't always as they appear..

Good luck

It really pisses me off too!

Today, there was this old strange man in starbucks and he kept staring at me and almost everyone else in line. He made very uncomfortable and I think he made the others uncomfortable too. I'm already paranoid and he just made it worse. I NEARLY flipped out on the man. I felt like screaming at him "Why the FUCK are you staring at me?" "Stop FUCKING staring at me!!!" I didn't.... Within a manner of minutes, I turned round, and the nice guy that helped me and the creepy guy, were both gone!!!! Now, I wonder if I hallucinated the both of them?!

I don't get uncomfortable if women look at me, but I will get uncomfortable if they stare at me for long periods at a time. I used to go to this after school program and at a certain time, I think it was around 6PM, the OLDER "kids" would come in. The vast majority of them scared me and they were MUCH more older than me. A lot of the guys were near 18 and they would often stare at me and ask me questions. They always made me uncomfortable even the ones who were CLOSER to my age. Once, an acquaintance was talking to one of the older guys, who kept staring at me, he asked him if he liked me! And the guy, was saying something about age, that I was "pretty" and some other random shit. I felt like punching all of them in the face! They would always ask me if they could take me out and I'd always say "NO", but they would ALWAYS demand to know "Why?". So, it got to the point where I had to literally lie to them and say that I was with someone. Then, they would act like they were offended and DEMAND to KNOW what may made up "boyfriend" looked like, if he lived around there, and what his name was!!!!
It got to be too FUCKING crazy! I hate to imagine if I REALLY had a boyfriend and they knew about them, what would they DO to him?!

lol. You sound like me. When I use to work in a drug store at customer service there was a guy who would just stare at me like he wanted to rape me and he would tell me he only came in to see me. He'd walk past my window when no one was around to stare at me (He came in with his gf too). He would laugh because he knew I felt uncomfortable/annoyed. I remember asking him what he was fucking looking at.

To the person who said just ignore them, sometimes you can't and they need to be told to fuck off. I think a lot of guys like to make girls feel uncomfortable to feel dominant.

As I said in my other post I don't even like to go out and run anymore because the honking is annoying and having men stop and ask if I want a ride makes me uncomfortable.

Here's a thought maybe ignore them? You sound like a narcissist. I get stared at too but I ignore people.

It just sounds conceited to me. For one thing, what if a guy is just thinking/daydreaming and it merely appears that he is looking at you? I myself do that by mistake sometimes, and I'd be more than a little pissed if somebody tried to yell at me for it. Get off your high horse.

Hold on. Have you ever been groped or in any way threatened by a guy?

I'm a guy and i'm told i'm good looking (but i'm not conceited enough to just come right out and say it) I do get quite alot of female attention and also get looked at by girls.

I take it as a complete compliment but what does piss me off is that girls,especially in groups see it as perfectly accepetable to try and grope me or pinch my arse and generally be very touchy feely.

Why? What makes THEM think this is ok because they're girls. If i guy did that to a girl there would be holy hell to pay.

So it really pisses me off to see you getting so annoyed JUST because a guy is looking at you! If you're so attaractive like yo say you are then just ignore it. By shouting and swearing at them just makes you look like an idiot.

Guys cant help looking at pretty girls, that doesnt mean their thinking they want to have sex with you, they're just appriciating that the girl is pretty.

Yeah that happens to me too . It doesn't bother me that much .

I could see that getting very irritating.

"men are most likely to do harm than women"? Are you implying that any man who admires you is going to harm you?

Just because you have a uterus doesn't mean men will stare at you. There must be something that is getting their attention. Don't worry, being abrasive and caustic to anyone who dares look your way will scare any sane man off.

Yes women aren't don't exist to be eye candy for men. The fact is that women are eye candy for men. Its the same feeling when you walk by a window full of shoes and you go ooaoaoah look at those shoes. Men love to admire women. We exist to do so. You could be fat and ugly so stfu

ignore all these haters. unwanted attention is unwanted attention, and your reaction to it is perfectly normal and valid. keep dressing how you want, acting how you want, and doing everything else the way you want to, and keep believing in yourself. you're not somebody else's little trophy or statue to gawk at and, if the people staring at you don't understand that, that's not your problem or through any fault of your own. I hope everything works out for you, friend! :)

If your not a lesbian, and your very attractive as you say, I can't judge I've never seen you, but you get touchy when men look at you and not women and the reason you give is that women are 'less dangerous than men' or 'less of a threat' then you must see more in women then men, which leads me to believe you might be at least bi curious? I can't judge for sure but from what you have put everything is pointing at you liking women! You can't help being attractive and people won't be able to stop themselves look, but don't take it as a bad thing take it with pride if they look shady or in any way dangerous then don't stick around but they look to admire not to disrespect you, like a few people have said just ignore them and if what you want is peace then ignoring people is one way to get it! I am trying to get this from both perspectives and hope I helped!

Wow! No wonder I don't like talking to strange girls. I'm a guy and I'm scared that I will be seen as these assholes. I want to meet a nice girl but these fuckheads are making it harder for me.

LOL you all sound like you're living in a very bad part of town.

I'm thankful for girls like you, now get back outside so I don't have to deal with the men that normally bother you girls.

I have the same problem. I HATE it when people stare. I don't wear makeup and even when I have baggy clothes on they still stare. It makes me feel uncomfortable and creeped out. I can't stand it!!!

maybe your gay

Pls I meant have what most girls want...

The biggest problem u ll have is you ll eventually meet a guy who you like cos to you he isn't so into ur looks and he ll turn out to b a mean guy. Cos believe me he ll hate dt u r dt pretty n try every time to put u down. Unll stop thinking u r pretty and start being incomplete...I think you should try and be nice and find yoursel a good man who ll see ur God giving beauty and your personality too. Then again I think you ll be the one to show him your personality cos he like everyone else can't past your physicall and will judge you with dt. So u shd help who you fall for see that other side of u dt u want him to see and pls u HIV wt most girls want so y don't u be thankful to God for it and use it for good like helping people.

I don't know where you all live, but I don't know any woman who would ever feel the need to carry a taser. There's creeps everywhere, whether they're mentally ill or just weird, but if this is a daily experience then it's not worth putting up with.

I know exactly what you mean. It's so off putting, especially when you just want to let loose and have a good time. But with some creep staring on... Ugh.
As if you'd see a girl staring at guys like that!

Maybe you should have picked another career other then being an exotic dancer. I kid.

One more thing.

It's kinda random too.

I used to think people who dress like sluts were, well, slutty. TRUE these days most of them are, but some people are proud of their bodies. True you shouldn't go flaunting that shit carelessly as it makes the prize (you) less appealing, but some people are proud of their bodies.

Again don't leave out of what's sociably acceptable. And I'm not saying all sluts are like this because some/most just do want attention and that only.

But that's what beaches are for, right? :D

It's (unfortunately) normal, albeit incredibly rude. Agree 100% with your feelings about women staring is harmless compared to men leering, that's a good point to bring up. They should have to good manners to be friendly, charming, and introduce themselves if they really need a "closer look," but staring with mouth half open is just plain rude and uncouth.

Men can't seem to master even a modicum of self control when it comes to overtly ogling women. If staring could leave prints, you'd be full of eyeprints, I suspect.

I resented being started at by males as well, and did what you did. It certainly does wake them up out of their penile-induced stupors.

Well I can understand why you'd get mad, but you really don't need to be rude if someone stares at you. I mean, you can if they're being creeps, but if they're just looking at you because they find you attractive, then don't be a bitch about it. It wouldn't kill you to ignore them. And if you're incapable of doing that, then you're just going to have to deal with it.

The irony here is delicious, so basically you are your own worst enemy, given that you dress and pose yourself a certain way and it causes this "unwanted" attention to be directed towards you.

Basically you want guys to look at you a certain way and see certain things about the inner you instead of just focusing on how the outer you looks, but since you dress yourself up no guy gets past how the outer you looks, so you end up hurting your own chances for it.

Thats great.