Is it normal i feel this way...

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Ok I'm normally confident in myself but maybe its my PMS making me think this. Plus the fact I haven't been getting out too much since it's my last year of college.

Some reason right now I feel like people look at me as a girl who goes for the bad guys. I haven't even had a boyfriend but the guys I've liked never go for me and they aren't normally assholes well at least I don't think so. One of them happens to be rather shy actually, but never contacts me when I have contacted him enough.

But I have been putting my past ahead of me I guess. I do have guy friends who are nice but I just don't have that much interest. One of them he is really indecisive on what he wants in life and has rather low self esteem. The other he is rather busy with classes and work. Then the other I just met this year but I just don't want a boyfriend right now and I wasn't planning on meeting any new guys this year truthfully.

Trust me I try to not go for the assholes. I stay away from the jockey arrogant assholes, if one comes towards me I just walk away from him. I would never go for a "hot masculine guy" unless he ended up being rather nice after getting to know him after a while.

I'm just tired of seeing these girls going for assholes and feel like maybe people look at me this way... I plan on waiting till I graduate to meet any more guys truthfully, last year I actually had lived with an asshole who judged me a lot and we aren't friends anymore. He screwed me up a little, considering him, himself was trying to basically tell me I go for assholes and not guys like him.

I feel ridiculous for thinking this way. Just need to boost my confidence up. I know I can be rather insecure and think I need to wait till a few years truthfully before actually being in a relationship, just till my feelings are more mature, if that makes sense.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Fuck what people think! Go for whatever type you like.

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    We all feel insecure at times. However, if you stop caring about what others think of you then you can focus more on yourself. Personally, you sound like a very nice girl. I'm sure that you don't fit the stereotype for the average girl and as long as you know you don't that's really all that should matter.

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  • kellstar79
    12 years ago

    Seriously don't worry what other people think of you, it's what you think of yourself that matters. It took me a really long time to realize that others opinions don't mean anything. As long as your happy with yourself stop caring about others opinions. You have to live with yourself for the rest of your life and after college you may never see those people again. You will probably find that they don't think that way about you anyway. You sound like a really nice smart girl. Believe in yourself and others will too. P.s. we can't help who we are attracted too, it's a natural thing. Good luck

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Yes, I appreciate your comment.

      I have a feeling once I live on my own sometime after college that I most likely will change the way I see how people look at me more.

      One big problem is that I'm just ready to be done here at college and get out on my own more and not have my parents help me as much. I've been here too long; it feels like my back is against the wall.

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      • peterr
        10 years ago

        If you ever met me you would know where to set the bar. I am a lovely man, gentle and enjoy a good blowjob. I would go down on you too.

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    No worries. If that isnt who you are, then that isnt how you will be portrayed. Sometimes i feel like that guy that everyone just views as an asshole, when inside I feel awkward, anxious, smart, shy and dumb all at once. Its okay to feel that way, as long as you know what you like and who you are, then there is no need to fret. Good luck op.

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