Is it normal i feel somewhat rejected from this? long topic

Ok, so I had never asked this guy for his number in person which was kind of ridiculous from the start. I just didn't know if I should or not since I was leaving from college in a couple weeks at the time I knew I liked him, somewhat. We had worked together at a restaurant which I was working there for one of my classes and he was taking a culinary class there.

But I ended up getting his number through Facebook the last week since I knew I wasn't going to see him again and I did feel some regret for not attempting to see what would happen if I asked him to hangout. I just asked to hangout through a message but he didn't get it until a couple days later and there was only one day left to hangout with him but he had to work during the time we could.

But first he sent a message back on Facebook to give him a call when I had time to hangout and gave me his number. I ended up sending him a text message about how I was packing and cleaning so I sent him a message. He got back to me about an hour later saying he would like to but he had to work. I then sent him "Ok, well just give me a call or send me a message this summer if ya would like to hangout". I thought that was a good idea just to let him know that I still would like to hangout and am willing to even though I'll be a few hour away basically. He sent "aren't you moving up north?", since I told him about how I'll be going back home for a while. I told yes and asked why just to make it more clear on my side too. He said OK I just had to make sure because he was confused. I sent yep and something else. Then I sent another message I can be rather confusing and asked how work was coming since I had actually worked with him there before and it was busy some days and very slow some, I never got a response back. But the message were sent back and forth through the day basically.

But I feel kind of ridiculous for some reason. I'm not planning on contacting him again, because I know I have contacted him enough and I put enough effort if he does care to become friends. But I do get this funny feeling he won't contact me again. I probably should forget him and move on... there are plenty of other good men out there.

Although I was thinking of eventually asking him to come to this concert that I go to every summer that has 10 bands perform out at these fairgrounds. Which I'm going to be asking several other people to come too. I was thinking of just adding it as an event on facebook and add him possibly, thats if I don't decide to delete him from facebook first. lol

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  • Thewomanizer

    oh dear, u seem all flustered about really something quite simple, if he likes you then he will do something about it, if he doesn't then he doesn't and it wasn't meant to be, that's life!

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    • I'm fine.

      People take typed out words seriously at times. I was just typing my story and it came out long.

      I really don't see a problem with asking to go to a concert with a bunch of other people either. It won't be till about a month from now too and I would ask him to bring people a long. Unless you can explain how that could be a bad idea?

      I kind of agree with musician too. It's not like I'm desperate for anything. I just want to get to know him as a friend.

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      • Thewomanizer

        then go for it............!!!!

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        • OK. lol

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  • Musician

    Ya know, it's funny. Guys...or at least me...think sort of the same way.

    I've come to reason that you shouldn't predict someone's motives based on any form of text messaging unless it's stupidly obvious. So if you want to invite him to the concert, do it straight up and without crypticism.

    I always try to send as little Facebook messages as possible with the endgoal of making ME not seem desperate. These delusions, however, are just self-conscious chains holding us back from trying to get across the point we want to make. He won't think you sound desperate if your message doesn't sound that way, and if he's interested he will take you up on the invite.

    If he doesn't respond or has an excuse, don't worry about it. And besides, you DO have his number...do it the old fashioned way and actually give him a call. If he doesn't answer, leave a voicemail. There's no harm in that, but remember, no matter what the media of communication, it's all about your TONE.

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    • Oh no trust me, I just want to be friends with him now since I don't know him well. Also I do understand that text messages are worthless. It takes me a while to get back to a person through text messages.

      I also personally hate using facebook unless I don't have the persons number. I don't get why people contact me in facebook instead by phone when they do have my number and it's always guys through private messages.

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      • plum6

        I agree with Musician please don't be so vague about it, he is just looking at it from a practical perspective which might seem insensitive but will probably be logical in the end (for him at least). Even though you are unsure of this particular situation you don't seem like someone with self-esteem issues, so just be honest and put yourself out there and you will find out soon enough. If he keeps being distant you will at least have peace of mind. When guys do such stuff they are pervs and pathetic, but if women know what they want and go for it they are confident ;)

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        • Awe. Thanks. Yeah I know I don't have a bad self-esteem. I sure do care about myself but not to the extent where I don't care about others either.

          But yes. I guess it would be better to find out if he wouldn't answer back to me or not if I bother to call him.

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          • plum6

            Well with that attitude you are surely better off really knowing what he feels.

            Obviously there could be a million reasons why he didn't reply or show assertiveness yet, but if he really doesn't care (if that's the case it should be clear soon enough) don't take it personal, it's a chemistry thing. (unless you are a real beast to look at, which I am not assuming for the sake of the problem at hand:P)

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  • The_White_Spirit

    You should have intercourse with him

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt

    No. Do NOT contact him again or else you'll sound desperate and that is a huge turn off. You'll push him away. Men like women being unavailable and mysterious. If he wants to hang out, trust me, he will contact you. If he doesn't then life goes on. Chill.

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  • Pure_Soul

    Take a damn chill pill... If he wants to hang out, he'll hit you up. And don't delete him from Facebook. That's stupid.

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    • Thewomanizer

      agreed!

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    • Haha. I just like putting long ass topics.

      But yes it is his loss if he doesn't contact; at least I put effort.

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