Is it normal i feel so lonely without a boyfriend?

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I have been single for 9 months now. I have just split up with a guy I was seeing, which wasn't serious, but I liked him a lot and it had upset me.

I am extremely lonely and feel like I need some security, serious and comfort in my life. Not having someone there to love and care about me has started to really bring me down. I cry every few days about it. I have tried to get a boyfriend but all the men I have met for the past 9 months have wanted nothing but sex from me. I have gave up even trying or attempting to look now but I still feel incredibly lonely and down about it. It consumes my thoughts a lot of the time.

Is it normal to feel this down about being single?

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Based on 113 votes (93 yes)
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  • redoctober
    11 years ago

    I'll take you. Come, touch my golden loins!

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    • kingsleycrowne
      11 years ago

      The Loin King lol

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      • redoctober
        11 years ago

        ;)

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yeah this happens i'm sorry for your loss.

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  • kupokupo
    11 years ago

    "I have been single for 9 months now. I have just split up with a guy I was seeing" -- it's obvious that you aren't over him yet. Perhaps you should take a break from seeing guys & get your head on straight before you start again. You need to pick yourself up, feel strong & dignified, & then you can return to dating with the strength to shrug off the guys who only want sex. To do that, you need to get over the guy. It might sound impossible, but trust me, your heart can mend over time. Soon you'll be a fighting fit go-getter! :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thank you. You are correct.

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  • ibreathelectric
    11 years ago

    For someone who was MADE to be in a relationship, being single SUCKS. I HATED being single and I never want to be single again. Lots of people LOVE the single life, not being tied down and doing whatever they want. But you and me? NO WAY! We like companionship of the romantic kind. For me, being single is a nightmare. Totally normal :)

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  • sharonxly
    11 years ago

    I feel the same way as you...thats the feelings of lonely...I need a guy be my side, we can watch movie together, have dinner together, go shopping together, wanna share life with a guy I love...becuz I am tired of being alone..If my heart full of love, I will have a lot happiness

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  • jesssallstr18
    11 years ago

    I feel the same way when I'm single.

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    Not for 9 mos. I suggest a support group, and talk to people who have had similar experiences. It's also normal for these feelings to increase closer to Valentine's Day.

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  • throat_cutter
    11 years ago

    Crying about not having a boyfriend around to give you a sense of security and comfort?

    Your self esteem is almost non-existent.

    Someone enlighten me on this female reasoning

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  • Thatguy777
    11 years ago

    Aww. I know how you're feeling. I'm still in pain from a girl I never even dated. I wish I could meet a girl like you, it seems like nobody wants a relationship.

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  • kryscarmellose
    11 years ago

    My advice though, is to be more happy with yourself, otherwise you can't be happy with someone else. I'm not happy in my relationship because I hate myself. So. Make sure you fix yourself because if you don't it might kill a fantastic relationship with a great person.

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  • jetstream13
    11 years ago

    Entirely normal. Your story describes exactly what I'm going through right now! It's really tough, but kupokupo is right. we will be able to find good guys soon enough!

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