Is it normal i feel like i'm supposed to be having sex

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My partner and I (We're both male) have been together since we were 20 (We're 26 now) and we've never done anymore than oral and a finger every once in a while. We both aren't huge on sex in general, I'm pretty prudish lol and he would rather work on machines or build something than get off, so we usually are just fine with what little sexual intimacy we have. But being together for 6 years and talking pretty seriously about marriage makes me wonder if we /should/ be having sex, cause that's sorta what couples are supposed to do.

The whole top and bottom thing sorta trips me up, we're both givers and takers, both don't have any interest being in or putting each other in pain or discomfort, and just have no general interest in putting anything in our asses. But we talked about it and are willing to give it a try. Reluctantly willing. I know it's dumb to feel invisible pressure to have sex with my partner but I feel like our relationship is less valid if we aren't more intimate

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  • Murun
    6 years ago

    Don't be pressured into doing things you would't do anyway. Your relationship is whatever you want it to be, not some media type's expectations of what a relationship is.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Don't led Hollywood fool you there's all types of relationships out there. Also very rare to find someone that exclusively tops or bottoms either just be yourselves. Validity doesn't really exist

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    like heterosexuals the blow jobs stop after marriage. i see no upside in gay marriage and the gay community doesn't either. i know some gay marriages happen as its legal in all states . its about as rare as spending a two dollar bill at a wallmart .

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