Is it normal i feel like i have to 'get over' someone i never dated?

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So there's this guy that I've liked since forever and I had a huge
crush on him and he had a crush on me, but then this year he became
a lot more popular and a ton of girls like him and stopped talking
to me. Its not even like he's a shy guy, he's very outgoing and
talks to everyone. I was very disappointed at first but then I 'got
over' him and moved on. Well now hes been trying to get me back (if
you would even call it that), and I refuse to talk with him. I don't know if its because I don't want to be let down again, or if I want to make him regret ignoring me, but I feel like I have to get over him even though we never dated. It feels like he's my ex or something but hes not. I am really confused, should I try to be close to him again or keep trying to push him away? Thanks!

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  • Steve-2.0
    8 years ago

    Well, if you never attempted to pursue a relationship with him, there's really nothing you can do, nor is there anything you can "get over". It's a mere infatuation, and really not important.

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  • Lonely2
    8 years ago

    You never tried to pursue a romantic relationship with him and so he might have felt you didnt have those feelings for him and so he spent time with other girls because he was interested in having that kind of relationship, but now since he hasnt talked to you in a while he realizes he misses you and wants to still be friends with you...

    Your job is to understand what you really want

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  • royalmayfair2
    8 years ago

    Even if it's unreciprocated, you still put a lot of emotion into it, so yes, it's normal to have to get over it.

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  • bucho's_butt
    8 years ago

    I understand the concept of having to get over someone you never actually got to the dating stage with (I'm dealing with that myself), but what you're involved in sounds somewhat petty and immature. In other words, high school bullshit. I think if you really do like him and he's telegraphing interest then maybe you should go with the flow and let things unfold. The regret from not acting on this thing between you two could end up doing you harm in the near future. Needlessly punishing someone because you're secretly jealous that they are more popular than you are is pointless and absurd.

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  • snarkygirl
    8 years ago

    I understand. I still think of a guy I never dated years later. Its normal.

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