Is it normal i feel depressed about not starting my life yet?

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I feel awful about not starting my life yet. All my friends moved to other parts of the country, have kids or partners who they live with. They had kids and married high school sweethearts. I live alone and have a crappy minimum wage job with no one, I don't want kids, I given up on dating. I am 3 years older then most of them and they already have families. I feel like I am so behind but I don't want a family. They range between age 16-18 when they had kids and moved in with boyfriend/girlfriend. Am I just a loser? Also an additional questions is it normal to have kids and a family right after Us:high school/Uk:college)?

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Based on 35 votes (30 yes)
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  • tinburton
    10 years ago

    You're still young, my advice to you is to make your self stable, financially,physically,mentally, spiritually... And keep yourself healthy, trust me you'll attract better people and from there, you'll be able to start a family with less worries and more bliss!...
    It is normal to feel like your left behind, but you have your own race to fulfill, just focus on your journey and make it interesting... :)

    God bless you...

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  • imacomputer
    10 years ago

    You probably have higher expectations/goals for yourself than just popping out carbon copies of yourself...like possibly a career you can be proud of.

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  • epic562
    10 years ago

    That depression should become determination (not desperation). Start with your job. If it's a dead end then look for more work, get a career going. Get a decent apartment and some stability and women will become interested. Hit some dating sites like POF and OKcupid once you get yourself established and start dating again. Women will realise you have the potential to be a good provider and that will earn you points. You may have to wade through several possible partners but you'll find the right one. I did, or atleast I think I have, havent asked the question yet. <b>If you're a female</b> guys want to see the same thing. There's something about a woman that can take care of herself.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I do not need help dating. I have been in countless relationships. Either it does not work or it becomes repetitive and boring. So not very enthusiastic about taking that path. I would rather have 100 friends who are repulsed about the idea of being with me. If I keep getting women I am going to be in the same boat. I already get enough and I dont want anymore. People and relationships are far to easy to get and control. Its no longer fun to me. Its like checkers it too easy.

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      • epic562
        10 years ago

        I went through several women, trust me, I know dude. I'm not saying date them. I didn't. There were a few dozen hook up and flings in the past 2 years. End result was I found a girl I cant quite figure out, she takes amazing care of me and she's not too hard on the eyes. We've been together 7 months now... she still confuses the shit out of me. What I'm saying is one of these times your going to run into the right girl. When that time comes what are you going to have to offer?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          I do not want a girl. Relationships have no point. It has a predictable ending and only two paths. I have no motivation to pursue any relationship. I know all the tricks, how it works, and why its works that way. At this piont I could write a book. Why waste my time doing something so predictable? Life is more then sex and relationships.

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  • thr
    10 years ago

    I think it is normal to be depressed, if you do not like the state of your life, and you do not see it going anywhere.

    I haven't achieved the things that a lot of the people I grew up with have, and don't see a future for myself. That depresses me, but also the thought that, even if I could see a future for myself, then maybe I can't make up for the time lost and would be impeded by being so far behind.

    Your additional question: I live in Denmark, and I consider it normal to start having kids at the age of 25-30.

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