Is it normal i feel attached to a child i barely know?

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I've been a preschool teacher for years and now I'm planning to train to be a teacher so I'm spending 2 weeks volunteering in a school. I started off doing a few days in nursery last week and I bonded with a few of the children then moved up through the years and there's always been a few children who I bonded with in each class. But there's this one little girl in the nursery who I got so close to on my first day in the nursery. She's cute but so are some of the others, she was always wanting to hold my hand and have me read to her and sit on my lap etc. but so were some of the others. I don't know why I feel so attached to her espcecially. My last day in nursery was Wednesday and though I bonded with other kids I longed to go back not just to see this girl but a few of the others that i was close with so I got to go in for a few hours today. I didn't outwardly show favouritism but why is it that when she does something cute and funny it just touches my heart so much more. And when another child took her doll I felt such a strong desire to make everything better for her and protect her. I feel close to her but how can I when I barely know her? And I definitely can't go into nursery again as I asked and they're too busy. I will never see her again and I have no right to. She's not anything to do with me why did I long for her attention today? I can't understand why the idea of losing her hurt me so much when I never had her.

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  • phillostopher
    12 years ago

    I've been there! When I worked at a camp when I was 19 there was this little boy who had the roughest life. His parents had passed when he was a baby and he was very sensitive. But, I grew so attached to him and I bonded with all the kids but this one I just wanted to be there for him. So yeah, the last day I actually cried (later, at home) after he said "goodbye, I'll miss you." I think kids grow on us so fast and then the thought that that feeling isn't permanent...I think this happens to some parents as their children age...

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  • iunderstandyou
    12 years ago

    I worked as a Psychiatrist for some time.Maybe the little girl triggered a child hood memory.An old friend from your youth.Someone you were close to maybe.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    She's just cute and there will be many more in the years to come.

    I teach kids and I love them all so much, even the really rude boys grow on me! My mom tells me I can't parent them all when I get so angry when their own parents don't help them with homework etc. I think it's nice to have enough love to share with kids who aren't are own and to want to help them achieve their full potential.

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