Is it normal i dont want this child

You got with someone who you knew had a child, the child isn't going to just "go away". Then you go and get pregnant by him too? Way to go!

Oh...AND you get pregnant by a guy who was "fine" with keeping his own daughter out of your lives. That's real fucking smart.

You got into this and are now stuck because you have a kid by him too and you want to bitch about the daughter and try to get rid of her? She did nothing wrong here, YOU fucked up by making a series of bad decisions. Deal with it.

He "didn't even discuss it with you"? It's his daughter, lady! At least now he's putting her interests before yours and taking care of her, as it should be! You can only hope he does the same for your son when the time comes.

Do him a favor and get out of his life before your stupidity and nastiness poisons his daughter.

If you both work, you should both take care of the house. I haven't met a woman yet that is happy being a full time worker, full time housekeeper, AND full time mother. Its too much for one person. You need to remind your boyfriend that HE has two kids, YOU only have one. He needs to be the one that does her laundry, gets her bathed and dressed, disciplines her, takes her to school, etc. At the same time you need to realize that as the girlfriend of someone with a kid, you do have some obligations toward his daughter. You never make her feel unwelcomed, never come between her and her dad or her and her brother, never play favorites between her and her brother, and never do anything that will hurt her self esteem. Doing these things will not only hurt her, but will hurt your boyfriend, you, and your son. You need to understand that although your boyfriend rarely saw his daughter in the beginning, he was still a "package deal". His home is her home and she has more right to him than you do. If you don't find a way to accept her, your family will fail. If you and your boyfriend break up, your son may even have to endure a step mom that won't accept him and treats him like he's not wanted. How would you like it if his new woman came between your son and his dad. How would you feel if another woman was mean to your son every time he went to see his dad. You need to make your family work and stay together. It might not be easy, but here are books and people that can help you. Do it for your son. I'm saying this as someone who was the daughter. My dad left it to my step mom (who didn't want us) to raise us, she was overworked, our family was miserable, all the kids ended up with 'issues', even her bio ones. Eventually our family fell apart.

Wigsplitz is right. Be happy you have a man who is willing to own up to his responsibilities. You knew he had a kid before getting into this relationship and you chose to get pregnant anyway. You can't expect the kid to magically disappear for your convenience, it doesn't work that way.

Gez girl, I have a feeling you won't like your own child as well when you are inconvenienced. I reckon your bloke made a bad choice in women by choosing someone who doesn't love his child and the sister of the babe in your womb.

your child has a sister, it sounds mean

DUN GOOF'D BRAH