Is it normal i dont want my son raised christian?

Totally normal. If you don't have a belief, why would you try to inculcate it in your child?

That said, it's probably not a disaster if the kid is given a bible and whatnot at this age. You can share your feelings and beliefs with your child, and leave him to make his own decisions and come to his own conclusions when he's old enough.

Religion is exactly like alcohol: It's ok to do it socially, and if you overindulge on holidays, it's not a big problem. But if you start to rely on it, you'll only harm yourself and those around you.

You wouldn't want to raise your kid to be a drunk, so don't raise him to be a godaholic.

I think it's normal you don't want your child bought up in any religion. I think all kids should be bought up
With no religion and decide when they are older what to be. As long as they are bought up with morals and raised as good people what should it matter?

I don't believe in god, but I do believe in religion. In other words, religion will teach your son the basics: right from wrong, hard work, honesty, respect. God is not a bearded old man who sits in a throne in the clouds... "God" is just a symbol for goodness, virtue and leading a virtuous life. Once your son gets to be older, he'll decide for himself which things he accepts and which he rejects. But for now, encourage him to believe in the bearded old man... religion will give him a great base from which to tailor his own life and value system. Good luck to you in raising your son... the fact that you're thinking about these things and considering his well-being tells me that you're going to be a great parent. :-)

It's normal. If I had a child, I would try to raise him with my beliefs as well as my lovers beliefs and then let him or her their own what to believe in. I consider myself Buddhist/atheist , but most of my family is Christian. One side is, southern baptist, very extreme with a deep hatred towards Catholics. The other side is catholic, but i don't exactly know where their beliefs stand. If I was with someone, I'd be hounded on whether or not it's a Christian. So, you could imagine if I had a child!

This is tricky. It's a shame that you have to deal with this, but don't give in the pressure. Usually, I'd think that the best thing would be to avoid them, but since the mother is paying for your apartment, that means that she has some form of power over you. If you tell her "no" or try to get a restraining order against the family, it could cause more problems.

What is your parents stance on this? You shouldn't have to be bullied or forced into lying about your religious beliefs. Try to find someone to stay with.

I think the most relevant omission from the cover of any version of the Bible is the word 'Fiction' so no you dont want your child growing up with that christian mentality, good morals and values? absolutely. closed minded ignorance? nope. My 6 year old has come back to me asking questions because the neighbors have a 7 year old boy too and thye are mildly religious and upon my neighbors wife telling my son god loves you and stuff he was very confused and she was almost like appalled i hadn't told my son a thing about god nor had him baptized just due to the fact that my life is proof in itself theres no god, basically unless you feel that free thinkers are dangerous just keep your kids away from religions and into schools.

You know what, just baptize the bloody kid and let him figure out who he is later in life. If he is is to choose to live a Christian life, so be it.

I feel for your baby momma. I'm afraid to tell some of my christian family members about my beliefs too. But at the same time, I feel like they have nothing to trip about. I have pretty good morals and all that jazz, and if my loved ones can't accept that, then they're the ones that need better morals and a better look at their bible and learn more from their "Jesus" about acceptance. Maybe your son's mother can express to her family that she has her own beliefs and that they need to accept her, because it's not like she's a satanist or anything. And that you two want to raise your son in a non-religious way. Good luck~

You mention a couple things that are very important:

1. You're not together with your wife/gf. So you're not there for the daily struggles your wife is dealing with, which includes paying rent, food, dealing with the new baby, etc.

2. The GRANDMOTHER IS currently paying for the rent, necessities, probably helps the new mom with the baby, etc.

The grandmother tries to make sure your baby is fine/safe/has the things it needs (roof over it's head, etc) and apparently has asked nothing in return.

So...

I agree with your wife/GF...you can't afford to be vocal---when you can pay your own bills, care for your own, you can make your own decisions until then if it makes the grandma happy -- oblige..the child is too young anyway to grasp any religion concepts.

Personally, I don't see the big deal in it. Sometimes in life, you can't sweat the "details."

What the big deal. At the end of the day it up to the kid.

It's normal.

But honestly, I think your son's mom really should tell her mother soon about the decision to not raise your child Christian- in this case, it sounds like it's better to tell your son's grandmother sooner than later. Otherwise, it might blow up into something a lot worse if you wait a long time.

I have been raised as a kind of Christian then again i rarely do something like pray go to church and i never read the bible and i also belive in science oh and i also agree with sinensis.

Give your child a brief understanding of many religions, but don't just push one on him. Also let him understand your viewpoints as agnostic. That way, instead of being forced into your beliefs, or his grandmothers beliefs, he can pick which one he connects with and feels strongly about when he reaches a decent age!