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I'm very much in love with my fiance, however, I have zero sex drive with him. I will sleep with him & whatever else, but I just don't want to. I absolutely won't instigate anything, & I never used to be like this. I'm only 20, though. So, my question to y'all is, is it normal that I have zero sex drive?
I think the question is; when you do have sex, do you enjoy it? And if not, why not? Has it always been like this with all the guys you've had sex with or only this guy?
If your fiance has an average to above average sex drive and you have absolutely none, you two are headed down a rocky road, and I'm NOT talking about ice cream here. You two need to TALK, honestly and openly about this before your marriage plans continue or you may very well end up a single parent.
Don't wait; it's not fair to him and your future is at stake.
When we have sex, sometimes I enjoy it. But most times I just do it so he'll shut up. like, I don't even really participate anymore, I just kinda lay there & wait for it to be over. I've tried to talk about it, but I don't really want to hurt his feelings or make him think he's doing anything wrong.
Ditto, ditto, ditto. Don't just throw in the towel though. Talk it out perhaps consider counseling. If he does nothing to help increase your sex drive at your age perhaps it's not meant to be.
Hmmmm. okay a few questions:
a. are you physically attracted to him (honestly)
b. do you work a lot or find yourself stressed out a lot
c. & do you cum when you have sex?
Also, how often do you exercise?
If you dont want to have sex with anyone else, Its possible you could be asexual. I talk to a lot of asexual people online, and they say the exact same thing. They don't desire sex, but they are willing to please the person they are with.
Either way, you should talk to him so you guys can get on the same page and sort things out.
No I had sex for the very first time on Saturday after wanting it for 5 years!! I wanted sex since I was 12/13 years old. I finally got it and it felt like heaven!!
I think you should start having sex because you only live once
Want my advice dump him and go and party in Ibiza live your youth these are the best years of ur life dont waste them and regret it ur stupid and not ready u dont even wanna have sex with him
Sound GAY to me... One of my ex-girlfriend was like that She wanted everything but not sex She wanted to talk to me for hours but no erotic discussions later I found out through exsidently getting into her email account that she is a hardcore lesbian she just want to marry me coz she need a husband as a social inssurance
R u on any anti-depressant/anxiety medication? Sometimes that can lower/kill one's sex drive.
maybe it's just the wrong guy even if you feel so in love with him.Maybe you need to think about what you really want and what could stimulate your sex drive.
It may depend on what you're seeking from the marriage with him and what he's seeking.
If you plan to never have sex with him when you're married, that would be unfair to him in my opinion. Unless of course he doesn't want sex either.
Don't get me wrong, I believe that it's perfectly fine to wait until you're ready.
However if you're planning marriage, both of you need to consider what your partner's wants and desires are as well.
U said u werent like this before to be with the man u have to be attracted to him physically there should always be a lust a wanting fir sex to that partner oh and ps your 20 years old im 20 also dont get married to this guy ur to young ur gonna give up ur whole life to this guy ur not even attracted to im gonna get married when i become 27+ cuz theres still so much parties and crazy things to still do