Is it normal i don't want to hang out with people?

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I've always been kind of a loner, but lately more than usual, I just don't want to hang out with people, specifically my supposed best friend. My friend is constantly calling me or posting on my facebook wanting to hang out and I just don't want to. After I'm done with classes, I just wanna come home, watch my shows, do my homework, and be alone.

In addition, she calls me all the time. There have been days she calls every 30 minutes and if I don't answer you'd think she would just leave a message and not keep calling. Then sometimes if I don't answer she'll just show up at my apartment. If I don't answer the phone, why would you just come over. There have also been two instances where she pounded on my door and windows when I was taking a nap. I woke up but just laid there for like 20 minutes until she finally left.

We're both 19, but sometimes I wish she would just grow up and I don't know how to deal with this situation. I just want to take a break, and I've been avoiding her for about 3 weeks. I just feel like she harrasses me sometimes, and it's not like she doesn't have plenty of friends to hang out with.

That kind of brings me to the point when I talk about another friend that I have that lives a ways away or post pictures with her or whatnot, she acts all jealous and talks bad about her. Yet, she has tons of other friends she has to sit and brag about that I don't care about. What's up with that?

Anyway, is her behavior normal and is it normal that I just want her to leave me alone?

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Based on 55 votes (43 yes)
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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    I've had a friend who's like this, and I felt the same as you. Exactly like liiaaa3 said: she's probably just worried about you. I know that it would be really awkward to tell her to leave you alone for a while, but she won't get the message unless you say.

    Fyi, my situation was resolved when my friend went away for the summer, and when he came back I was ready hang out again.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Why don't you just tell her how you feel so she doesn't have to keep trying? If my best friend wanted space, I'd expect her to tell me. Maybe she's worried about you since you've been ignoring her for three weeks.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    If she shows up AT ur place unannounced, she thinks she's more than just a friend to u. Tread carefully.

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  • ManiacOn9th
    10 years ago

    I feel the same way. I'm best at just hanging out with my friends in class but after school I just want to go home, nap, eat, watch T.V and stay away from people. But then people start texting me,snap chatting me, kiking me, facebook messaging me,it never stops. They all ask if "Hey wanna hang out?" or just "Hey whatsup?" Like I don't care and I don't want to TALK TO YOU PEOPLE. After being friends with most of them for at least a few years, none of them have gotten the point of me not wanting to be bothered. -_-

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  • ScooterNyne
    10 years ago

    I went through a comparable situation. I started ignoring my best friend and after about 2 weeks he convinced my group I was suicidal and they showed up at my house at 4AM banging on my door like a fucking maniac. Ironically I hated being around them even more after that stunt lol.

    Best thing to do is tell them you are going to be ignoring them.

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  • TheatreLover22
    11 years ago

    Just tell her how you fell. Jeez, she sounds annoying.

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  • rainbowdrop
    12 years ago

    Its all good, I have the same kind of friend as well. We haven't hung out in three months yet she still constantly texts/drops by/facebooks up a storm. I feel the exact same way as you. I just want to be alone and with my own self a lot of times and am considered a hermit by my 2 friends. But wtf, its our life! We deserve to have alone time. Its juts kind of a drag to feel like this friend is going to pop up out of nowhere and catch you off guard! She probably means no harm, just one of thos e people who need companionship constantly. Is there something you have that she wants or uses? Don't be put off, but maybe she has legit feelings for you? I mean I don't know, just exploring options. Just tell he r you're really busy and she will get the hint eventually.

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    Tell her that you love her friendship and all that, but STOP CALLING SO DAMN MUCH! Tell her you need some alone time once in a while, sheesh.

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