Is it normal i don't want to be with my "good girl" girlfriend anymore

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At first it was magic. We clicked, we laughed, we have a large group of mutual friends. I really thought she was the one, and I loved having a girlfriend.

4 months have passed I don't want to see her. I avoid her. When she comes over, I act glad to see her but I am just going through the motions.

The trouble is I am not that attracted to her. And on top of that she has been sheltered in her life. The things she finds funny are what a 12 year old would find funny.

At first I liked being with a "good girl", sheltered, a good student, does what her parents want her do .....but I don't think we really connect. I see better looking woman, who have interesting personalities all the time and I think: I should be with someone else. Should I:

Break up with her and be unhappy without a girlfriend. 33
Stay with her for the sake of convenience. 6
Tell her I want a break for 2 months and then we can reassess. 21
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  • NoraBaker
    11 years ago | pl

    I intended to vote only, except you have given me no option but to comment. All your choices are bad either for you, her or both. Break up with her and be happy without a girlfriend until the right one comes along. Having a girl for the sake of having a girl does not make a guy happy, you've already figured it out on your own, man. Stop wasting yours and her time.

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    • DanishGirl
      11 years ago

      well said:)

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    • plum6
      11 years ago

      I agree completely too, it is not about the relationship but about you and your needs. You are obviously not ready not be seriously involved because you are still too much into pleasing yourself.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Just break up with her.

    If you are so unhappy with her that you are avoiding her, then you're not doing either of you any favors by sticking around.

    I commend you, though, for realizing this. Anyone who has been in the relationship game long enough will tell you that this isn't abnormal. You got into a relationship with a girl that you held a particular ideal of and as you got to know her better, you realized that your ideal of her was misguided.

    Go out and date more women until you find one that you can live with. We're not all destined to be with out first love, or second, or third... or eighth. Life's too short to stay with someone that doesn't make you happy.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    Do you need a girlfriend to be happy?

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  • midnatwilight
    11 years ago

    Stop leading her on, you're being an ass-wipe. If you're not into her, you're not into her.

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  • Indira
    11 years ago

    If you're not feeling it now, it's better to end it because it could very well end badly for both of you. I was in a relationship like that before and neither of us wanted to be without a bf/gf, so we kept seeing each other. In the end, it ended worse than it should have.

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  • Ihadtomakeyetanotheraccountffs
    11 years ago

    Tell her how you feel and see what she says I guess, but don't like rip into her.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    @Joker:
    Not true. What about bad girls? Do they want good guys to be bad? Nahhh. I don't think so.

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    • Joker1159
      11 years ago

      I have a girlfriend right now who is a total bad girl and loves that I'm bad only for her and I'm a total goody goody and the most innocent person ever. And I love that I can get her to be good for me and not want to be bad all the time so yeah I still stick to that quote lol.

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  • musicgirl100
    11 years ago

    You don't NEED a girlfriend to be happy what the hell?

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  • Joker1159
    11 years ago

    "every bad guy wants a good girl to be bad just for him, every good girl wants a bad guy to be good just for her."

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    I think I am happier with a girlfriend. All of my friends have girlfriends and we do things as a group. I hate being the odd man out. And it took me forever to find someone that I even liked to talk to. And it is nice to have sex consistently. But she really gets on my nerves, and makes me cringe sometimes. I just don't know if I can find anyone else right now even though I wish I could.

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    • Lynxikat
      11 years ago

      Oh great- are you one of those people that constantly needs to have a girlfriend? Seriously?

      Who cares if you're the odd man out- if you're unhappy in this relationship then break up with her. Not only are you not doing yourself any favors, but you're also not doing your gf any favors either by pretending that you're still into her.

      So you're saying that you would rather be with a gf who annoys you and doesn't make you happy instead of being alone? If that's the case, then fine. Be with your girlfriend. Be unhappy for the rest of your life because you're too afraid of being the "odd man out" to act like a real man and say, "Hey, this relationship isn't working out".

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