Is it normal i don't want my fiance to have a stripper?

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Is it normal that I do not want my fiance to go to the strip clubs for his bachelor party. Ok so here it is, were getting married and his parents want to get us both strippers. His mom wants to order me one and his dad wants to take him to every strip club around town. I don't want a stripper and I have told her that many times and she keeps saying their is going to be one and that his dad is taking him to the strip clubs and that's the end of it. This is my marriage. Call me jealous call me what you will, but I don't ever want to imagine my man getting turned on by another woman or another woman giving my man a lapdance and shakin her sh*t all over him. F*ck that. Whether its paid for or not. And to me personally watching a guy shake his wang is just f*ckin hilarious and I don't care to see it. To me our marriage is suppose to be celebrating our love for eachother and that stuff about it being his last free night before he's hooked for good....were hooked for good now and have been for the past 3 years. And our wedding is not going to change that, I thought for our bachelor parties we could all go together and just hit the bars and get wasted without strippers. But my fiance doesn't want me around at his bachelor party. And the thing that gets me most is we wouldn't even be having one if we weren't getting married. Getting married is supposed to be celebrating me and his love and the rest of our lives. Anyways let me know your opionons. Is it normal I don't want my fiance to go to the strip clubs and if he did I might even consider not getting married to him?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    I think if you're not comfortable with that he needs to respect your wishes. Each couple has their own opinions about what is okay, and what is not okay.

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    • x1frosty16
      12 years ago

      When I bring it up with him he doesn't exactly say he will but he won't say he won't either. Just that he wants to get wasted and he doesn't want me around when he does. He beats around the bush and never just answers me with a straight answer, and he knows how I feel about this

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        Either you have to accept the possibility that there may be strippers, or you need tell him you guys aren't going to get married if he wants to be with the strippers at his bachelor party.

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  • ishitpandas
    12 years ago

    I told my fiance if he went to one I would NOT marry him. So he isn't, nor am I. Fuck your family. This is YOUR relationship and marriage. Sit down and talk to your man about this. If he really loves you he will do what makes you happy!

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    • disthing
      12 years ago

      Although following your argument, if she really loves him, she will do what makes him happy, which might be allowing him to see a stripper :D

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      • Tehboss
        12 years ago

        exactly why is it only respectfull wen the man does what the women wants and not the other way around?

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      • Lynxikat
        12 years ago

        Wow... wow, you're an ass.

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        • disthing
          12 years ago

          Just pointing out the flaw in the "If he really loves you" argument.

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          • Lynxikat
            12 years ago

            Yeah. And then she'll be the one that's depressed and upset at her groom to be for doing something that she's not really comfortable with him doing.

            It's not going to hurt the guy to not have a stripper... but since this obviously upsets OP, if he does get a stripper, he'll be hurting her. It makes him look selfish by ignoring his wife-to-be, and doing something completely frat-boyish like going to see a bunch of strippers.

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    12 years ago

    If I were you I would seriously tell your husbands parents to fuck off big time.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    does your fiance want one?

    just remember... the dancer can't steal him from you. unless he's willing to stray

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  • penpal21
    12 years ago

    His PARENTS are getting you strippers?????

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    • x1frosty16
      12 years ago

      Yes and I find that very weird too that they are so consistant about it.

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      • VsegdaTemnata
        12 years ago

        *persistent.

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        • disthing
          12 years ago

          Or insistant? :/

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      • Lynxikat
        12 years ago

        That IS weird... did you ask them why?

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      • disthing
        12 years ago

        Consistant? :/

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  • thewise
    12 years ago

    You're absolutely right. Your wedding is supposed to celebrate your love for each other. The whole concept of the "last free night" just makes it seem as if marriage is just some way to tie one down against their wish. If you guys are in love, there should be no desire to want anything with anybody else

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  • emotionalwreck4ever
    12 years ago

    i would be mad as hell, get drunk af and show up and he would have no other option but to take yu home lol

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  • Lynxikat
    12 years ago

    If you don't want either of you to have a stripper, then your family should respect your wishes. Same thing with your fiance, if you don't want him to have a stripper, then he should respect your wishes.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Nornmal.
    Tell him how you feel. He should know how you feel.
    If he still wants a stripper, then he's selfish, and probably not the guy you'd want to be with for the rest of your life, right?

    Oh, and fuck his family. This is YOUR marriage not THEIRS.

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  • Valkyrie_Creepr
    12 years ago

    Well I am a guy (21) and have always told my girl everything...But it always seems to me that when a girl has something that she feels uncomfortable with then the man HAS to not do it or whatever the circumstance may be. Yet when the guy feels uncomfortable the girl; may do as she wishes. I personally don't think it's a big deal. I wouldn't want one...nor would I know what to do. But you guys should talk about it and maybe you should let him go. I mean he is marrying YOU not the stripper. This is just my personal feelings and I may be wrong but it's how I feel

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    • Tehboss
      12 years ago

      unless it's vegas :D and then maybe another angel gets his wings :D

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  • tiffunny5
    12 years ago

    He Shouldn't want a sripper !!! A few days before he get's married he has some young, hot thing putting her stuff in his face, and this should be tolerated just because its a "bachelor party" ? No excuses, if this kind of thing isn't tolerated on any other day, then it shouldn't be Excepted at a party no matter WHAT the occasion is.

    Dont give into this idea girl. You are Not over reacting.

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  • moomus
    12 years ago

    I wouldn't want my man going to a stripper either. Also I wouldnt go to one or want one. Normal.

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  • SubParPhalus
    12 years ago

    He's entitled to having his own time and space but if the stripper thing makes you uncomfortable he should respect your wishes, his buddies might not be impressed with it but if he loves you it shouldn't matter.

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  • visualkeirockstar
    12 years ago

    That's really weird

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