Is it normal i don't want/ fear having babies?

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I'm terrified of them, the thought of pregnancy or anything to do with it, other peoples kids/ pregnancy... it's not anything like, has to do with my boyfriend or age or anything like that. but most girls my age want ro have tons of babies right away, and they swoon over pregnancy and coo over babies, while I can't, and I've tried, can't find them cute. I can't make myself think there a good path, can't imagine having any one day, and if I wanted one, I'd need to adopt because anything about pregnancy disgusts/terrifies me. I have nightmares about it. But I feel like I should want them. Everyone I know does or has them. I'm 18 and that's like, the start of the countdown I hear girls talk over for making babies. I'm afraid of regretting it later, but I'm more afraid of actually making one. Is it normal to lack any motherly instincts? I'd think I was too young to feel like I like babies but all the other girls like them and I'm truly terrified of them....

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  • lifeofclocks
    11 years ago

    My daughter is 13 and has said for most of her life she doesn't want to give birth. She would rather adopt. My sister is 26 and has no children. No real desire to have any either. I think it's a respectable stance. I support them both. It's not 1865 where women need to churn out farmhands. You are entitled to choose not to have children early or ever. That internal clock might tick but it's not a time bomb.

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    You're just smarter than those other girls. They sound like idiots.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      You're just smarter than those other girls. They sound like idiots.

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  • paradox90
    11 years ago

    It is normal yes! I think that it's cool that women like you exist. The decision of having babies is YOURS (after all it is your life, isn't it?). You shuld not care at all what the others say about it.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I'm scared of babies but that is due to the experiences I had with my brother and purple crying. I was 17 and knew next to nothing about parenting so I was alone and confused and had no clue what to do and whenever I think back to my experieces with him, I don't know if I could ever do that again.

    The process of pregnancy also disgusts me as well but I have 20 years from today to think about it and I'm assuming you do too. Who knows? Maybe we'll change our minds.

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    • thelittlesultana
      11 years ago

      I also helped raise my 2 younger siblings, so that might have helped turn me from them and pregnancy, too. And who knows indeed

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  • Baby.Blues
    11 years ago

    Thank you! I thought it was just me for a while! Not completely the same as you though. I actually love babies. Every chance i get, i will take care of my niece because she is so adorable and i love her to pieces. But having my own kids, no thanks. Everyone i know wants to have kids and they have everything planned out already. I have absolutely no desire to birth my own child. I would much rather adopt. Why would i want to scar or hurt my body in such an intense way jusy to bring another person into this insanely over crowded world. Why not save one already born who may never get a good life where they are now.

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    • thelittlesultana
      11 years ago

      Thank you, that what I mean. Even if I want kids why would I take a chance from another in need? And I dont like the idea of messing up my body either.

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  • David1405
    10 years ago

    I hate kids and babies with a passion, so yes it's normal

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  • Allstar87
    11 years ago

    I always felt that way, and I'm 18 as well. But I'm in a serious relationship now, and things have changed. Sometimes when you're with the right person, it changes everything. That might just be what you need. And if not, I think it's totally normal to be put off by the idea. I know I am!

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    • thelittlesultana
      11 years ago

      I really do love my boyfriend more then the world itself, so I don't know that it's a problem, haha. We're going to get married in the not to distant future, but he dislikes them as much as I do. Still puts me off though, just, screaming smelling gooey.... blech xD

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  • iluvblue
    11 years ago

    i have the same problem i would love to have kids but i dont want the pain of birth or pregnancy and i DONT want to have sex ever so i've decided im adopting kids this seems normal...to me that is

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  • hairyfairy
    11 years ago

    Iv`e never liked babies, I find them smelly, noisy, & a real pain to be around. I fell pregnant when I was 17, & let other people talk me out of having an abortion. When the kid was born I didn`t want anyting to do with him, & had him adopted. That was many years ago, & now I need treatment for a health problem that has developed as a direct result of giving birth. If I could turn back the clock, I would never have gotten pregnant in the first place because it`s the stupidest thing Iv`e ever done. If you want my advice you`ll go & get your tubes tied as quickly as possible!

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    • Sonyunii
      11 years ago

      Now that, is just disgusting IMO

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    • thelittlesultana
      11 years ago

      I do want to get my tubes tied when I'm in my 20s, and also I really respect you for not having an abortion. There are tons of people who want babies, let it make them happy. Though avoiding pregnancy is the best path I think.

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  • SkullsNBones
    11 years ago

    Yay, someone else who doesn't find them cute! I was beginning to think I was a monster.

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    Of course 18 is way too young to be thinking about having babies. But your opinion might change once you start reaching your mid-late 20's and you have a better idea about where your life is heading.

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  • ScottBaio-Wulf
    11 years ago

    A mama cat can go give birth to a litter of young'uns in the back of a junked 83 WV Rabbit and maybe she eats them kittens, maybe she don't. N'ooome sayin'?

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