Is it normal i don't trust women sexually?

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Here's how I see things:

No matter your looks, status, or anything else, if you're in a relationship with a woman she will fantasize about someone else. For most people I have talked to it seems they're totally fine with that. But it makes me feel so worthless. If a girl says she loves me I can't feel anything but disappointment because while she may feel that way, she will at some point lust for someone else to be physically intimate with.

To be clear, we are all human and lust. What I am referring to specifically is masturbation or cheating; not passive feelings but an encouragement of them. I've been called controlling for having this perspective, but I am the least controlling person. I want people to be themselves. I just feel miserable that no one wants me as much as I seem to want them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I think it would be natural to "physically" lust over others while in a relationship, I am sure you have found other people sexually attractive (not romantically) when you were in a relationship, or when you felt something for someone, the difference is if they act on the lust.

    We're only human. We will find attraction physically in other people, it's natural. It's why you should establish a romantic attraction with the person, because if you have that, the person may lust physically over someone else, like everyone does every once and a while, but the love they have for you is stronger than their primal lust for another.

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  • ifonlyuknew247
    10 years ago

    When I'm in a relationship I only lust for my partner. If another man does get through that force field of love that blinds me to most that I otherwise would have lusted for & might take notice of their exceptional status, but even so, my lover is #1 in my heart & my fantasies.

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  • 6meyou9
    10 years ago

    Be patient, when she finds you she will only think about you.

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    • 6meyou9
      10 years ago

      because your her everything

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  • mixwell
    10 years ago

    Out of the millions of people on Earth of course men and women are going to see attractive people even while in a relationship. It sounds like you're insecure and doubting yourself. At the end of the day your chicks with you and not fucking someone else.

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  • Energy
    10 years ago

    So she's not allowed to masturbate over others? Lmao.

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    • BarefootGuy
      10 years ago

      I didn't say that. I said it makes me feel bad when she does. It's not like I have any say in that matter.

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  • udolipixie
    10 years ago

    No it's not normal for a heterosexual guy to think this way. This mindset is more prone to heterosexual gals.

    Bit curious as to whether you use porn because if you do it's a bit biased and skewed to not sexually trust gals.

    In my opinion likely you'll be masturbating to others more than her if you're the typical straight guy.

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  • laoshu
    10 years ago

    It's not strange to masturbate thinking of someone else...at least I don't consider it strange. That's human nature. No one can be perfectly monogamous in thought.

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  • Shelbs
    10 years ago

    Well, sadly, you can't control a persons mind. I suggest you ask her about what she's fantasizing about, and try to do those things with her. Usually, it isn't mostly physical, unless you're really out of shape, it's usually an emotional or sexual thing. And those are things you can work on to make her more focused on you.

    However, she is still going to find others attractive and maybe think of them sexually, that's just human nature.

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  • White___October
    10 years ago

    You're one of the few guys that understand how a girl thinks. It's exactly true, at least in my case.

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    • BurnaBaby27
      10 years ago

      Yeah, I thought the same thing when I read this. I think a lot of females think that way because that's just how we're programmed. It's illogical and unhealthy though. I fantasize over others, especially during masturbation and cunnilingus because that's what it takes for me to orgasm. Can't really help that. But knowing your significant other does that would suck :( even though as humans, I think it's something we all do. We shouldn't really dwell on it.

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  • noid
    10 years ago

    I thought men were more prone to fantasizing about others that are not their partner!

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    • BarefootGuy
      10 years ago

      I am certainly prone to it, but I don't believe it's out of my control. When I lust I channel it to whomever I am with in hopes of building a stronger bond with that person. When they don't do the same the bond feels broken.

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      • noid
        10 years ago

        Makes sense to me.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    Everyone has fantasies of more than one person. The only reasonable test of their commitment to you is whether or not they act on them.

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