Is it normal i don't think my child turning 18 changes anything?

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My child seems to have been under the impression because he is 18 he no longer had do to anything I said or follow any more of my rules. He said he was an adult and could do whatever he wants. I made it plainly clear to him that as long as he is living in my house, he was quite incorrect. This house belongs to his mother and I and so long as he is living in it, he will be required to follow our rules. I explained that this was true a month ago when he was 17, and the calander didn't change that. I explained he is welcome to stay as long as he likes, but our house has a door not bars, and if he wants to live a free and independent life, he can walk right through it and get his own place any time he likes. I am not going to make a list of the rules of our home, but none are especially unusual, and it doesn't really matter anyway because we get to set them.

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    It's your house and son, so you can do what you like.

    But if he's being treated like a child, then that's probably how he's going to act. So I guess it depends on what these rules are.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I didn't say anything about him acting like a child. I said we had a disagreement as to the hierarchy within the house. But he has control over his own actions. If he were to choose to act like a child that would be no ones fault but his own. We can not "make" him do so. Personal responsibility.

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      • victorygin
        8 years ago

        I don't know the specifics. And it depends on the rules.

        But the way he is treated is going to influence his behaviour.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          As I said only if he chooses to let it. He is not a puppet, he controls his own actions.

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          • victorygin
            8 years ago

            But don't you think that the behaviour of the parents/parenting style, influences the behaviour of the children?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              8 years ago

              Not at that age no. I would not expect an 18 year old to suddenly alter their behavior based on house rules.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    LOL. He gonna learn real quick. If you don't own it, you don't make the rules.

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  • MrExaybachay
    8 years ago

    Nothing changes the day you get 18
    Changes happen everyday, learned they get through . ordered they pass by.
    Btw Your house= your rules
    His living in your house => get him to help around sometimes at the difficult works you gotta do in house. and leave his privacy alone. Make him feel he got he's own place in there. He might one day need to come again and say "Hello memories".

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Here, here. I'm 100% on your side Dad!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thank you!

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